My sister.... cuts? :s
Yesturday i was at my moms house. My parents are divorced and i live at my dads while my older sister who is 16 lives at my moms. I go to my moms house every second weekend. Its been about two months since i noticed my sister wearing long sleeves in hot weather, and being more cautious about her arm. I never put much thought into it.
Her and i were sitting in her room. She randomly turned to me and said, 'look what i did' i looked and boy do i ever regret it. Her arm looked like she had been attacked by a blade. I asked her what had happened and she said she cuts herself. I really don't know what to think of it. I mean it helps her for stress. And i want her to be happy but its like she doesn't even think about me. Obviously i want her to be happy. And when she cuts herself i guess it makes her 'happy' but it kills me to see her harm herself. She always says she is going to admit herself into the hospital. And truthfully, i want her to. I want her to stop before she goes too far. But i have no idea what to say. i dont think it really matters because im just her 'little sister and don't know what im saying.'
Does anyone have any suggestions on how i could ask her to stop? Or if i should even ask her to? :s
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Tell your parents. They can
Tell your parents. They can get her the help she needs. She might resent you for telling them, but she'll thank you in the long run. I know we value our sisters for their ability to keep secrets, but this is life-threatening stuff here. Just tell your mom or dad or whoever. They can get her counseling or something, which is what she really needs right now.
For your sister.
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Cutting-Yourself. This is a good resource or at least a place to start. Her cutting obviously upsets you, so your not wrong in trying to get her to stop. She is hurting herself. She may be more willing to listen to you even though your younger. Learn as much as you can so you can help her.
My sister and I have talked
My sister and I have talked about her going into counseling and everytime she says she doesn't need it and that she wouldn't talk to the couselor. Also my mom and dad do know! And they aren't doing shit all about knowing she does it. My mom jokes about it. Like are you fucking serious, Its not a joking matter!! My mom is one of the main reasons my sister cuts herself. And my dad, Well since my sister doesn't live with us he kindof 'disowned' her and doesn't really care about what happens in her life
Wow. That's awful that your
Wow. That's awful that your parents have handled it that way. There are online resources for people who cut. Counseling isn't the only option I suppose, though it's probably the best. If the online resources don't work, then I recommend finding a counselor and calling them and explaining things to them. Just see what they say.
Be there to listen, try not
Be there to listen, try not to judge and it sounds like you're not, and encourage her to write about her feelings.
Thanks. I never really
Thanks. I never really thought about asking her to write in a journal to help her. I will try that out :)