gays hate gays?
so i've been seeing this alot lately, and i dont know if this is a reoccurring thing around the globe or if its just the locals here being a lil derp-a-derp but i've been seeing alot of males in the gay community who are typically masculine and manly bashing, bitching, and harassing gays guys who are really feminine, girly, womanly, ect. really? the main reason why that i've heard is that "they bring a bad name to the gay community" , "i only date "men" if you date one of them you might as well be straight" where is this shit coming from?
i've dated both masculine and feminine guys to bash on either is just flat out retarded, if you really hate effeminate males dont give them shit for it, seriously they're just being true to there own personal nature, just like the rest of us are or try to be, besides dont we get enough shit as a whole from the rest of the world? do we need to really be turning on each other now? wheres the love man? wheres the love? and i just wanna know are lesbians facing this too in some way? give insight
on that note i think i wanna get a tattoo of the cheshire cat on my back cuz seriously i dont know what to put back there and i love cheshire, maybe it be better to hold that one off i mean the rest of the tattoos are gonna be personal and spiritual to me, oh well
so remember children god hates you all equally because it doesnt matter who you love, the color of your skin, or what you worship... that tornado or hurricane is gonnna kill you or fuck up your life -_- love you all ^^ so heres a music video
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Huh. I've never really seen
Huh. I've never really seen much of that, but then again, I'm not a gay guy. That is pretty crappy, though. Just because you don't want to date a certain type of person doesn't mean you have to hate them... I can totally understand getting frustrated by the stereotype that all gay guys are feminine, but that's still no reason for someone to take it out on another person.
As for us lesbians, I don't think there is that. There's this stereotype that masculine girls and feminine girls are supposed to date each other, and sometimes it happens, so I don't think there is much hatred among the "types." But... Personally, I'm definitely more feminine, but I can honestly say that I'm only attracted to other feminine girls. I mean, like, I don't really know any other way to word that... That is just part of what draws me in. But I definitely don't feel any negativity or hatred towards girls who aren't feminine. Whatever floats your boat and all, right?
I have seen/ been guilty of that
before for sure...I remember in high school, and even my early college life, that was why I never attended a GSA or PRIDE. I was gay, but I HATED teh strereotypes. hated them! and that would always get me pissed off.
I would probably have killed someone had I gone to pride. Doesn't matter if you are butch, fem or anything like that, and you can be yourself, but just because you are a homo, it doesn't make it ok to run around naked in public,.
I dunno. I see a lot of diversity in the 'gay' community, and the same goes for lesbos who hate on fem gay guys...so yes, it does exist.
Mental wounds not healing, driving me insane, i'm goin' off the rails on a crazy train- the ozzman
Well...
There's always an outcry from the "straight-acting" gay against more stereotypical behavior, since they're not really 100% comfortable with themselves enough to realize that a drag queen or feminine androgynous guy has no bearing or reflection on their lives. But it's usually not bashing, or anything real, just general disdain.
As for a back tattoo, maybe a target, so your dates can see how many points they score?
UPDATE: Funny, I debated mentioning hellonwheels by name, decided against it, and after I posted this, he had already commented about it. ;-)
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"You can judge the whole world on the sparkle that you think it lacks" - Dawes, When My Time Comes (http://youtu.be/Z0FrcTX6hWI)
Well
I usually don't care if someone wants to act feminine or whatever.
What I really don't like, is stupid people.
Like Colton, oh my God, Colton, from Survivor, such a douchebag. Or any gay guy, doesn't matter how feminine or not, although I think they tend to be more feminine, that's all stupid like drugs, drinking, and fucking, that's all there is to life!, cause there are gay guys like that...
Well, there's a lot of people like that. I guess what I'm saying is that I hate douchebags.
Which isn't really innovative, I guess...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xt5ghXdq6Z0&safe_search=on
yeah im not fond of douche
yeah im not fond of douche bags either, but to be honest i've done alot of weed, drinking and fucking but at least i dont revolve my life around it ^^ hehe
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heh
well, i've seen this as well, from the other direction. i was talking with this very feminen, stereotype filling gay guy, and he was complaining about this other gay guy for being "pretty much a straight guy" and i was very suprised. i've always hoped that the gay comunity was tighter then that, but it boils down to people will dislike others for differnces, even inside the same community.
japaneses people will find reason to dislike other japaneses people. dmeocrats will find reason to dislike other democrats. communists will find reasons to dilike other communists, mormons will find reasons to dislike other mormons. and gay people will find reason to dislike other gay people. its human nature to compartmentalize, to form camps of 'us' and 'them'. im guilty of it, i have a bad tendency of thinking of straight people as them, against gay people, who is us. everyone does it to some degree.
so im not suprised, to tell you the truth.unhappy about the fact? yes. but suprised, no.
"A loving man and woman in a committed relationship can marry. Dogs, no matter what their relationship, are not allowed to marry. How should society treat gays and lesbians in committed relationships? As dogs or as humans?"
heehehehe
very good ^^ i am very impressed with your vindicating approach, i agree ty :3
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So very pleased...
...to see a "resurfaced" ferrets. You've been missed!
Fuck both extremes.
I hate excessive masculinity or femininity in anybody, gay or straight, male or female. (I just noticed how fascist that sounds.)
I haven't seen this, but that's just because I only know of one openly gay guy in the area, and I've never spoken with him; just awkwardly stood around him while my sister was in a conversation with him and I was scanning the room for my friends.
What truly bothers me...
...is that so many people (just the insecure?) seem to hold in their minds an exaggerated stereotype of who they'd like to be. They then do their best to emulate that stereotype (no matter its validity!) in order to... hopefully... find full acceptance.
The outcome is often bizarre... and quite sad!
Are we all guilty... at least to some extent? I really do not know...
Well...
Depends on age. A lot of people, when they first come out, embrace the stereotype because they had held back their ability to be "out" for so long that when they do come out, they swing way over to the extreme of being out as much as they were extremely repressed when closeted. So, sometimes that initial self-acceptance includes exploring all the extremes and such of things to find out what works for them, and they'll likely dial it back over time as they settle into their own definition of how their sexuality expresses itself.
So, I do think everyone is allowed a window to be a big crazy stereotype that borders on tragic, because ultimately I think people who do that end up on more solid footing in the long run. They explored everything that was on offer, and found out what works for them. That can ultimately be a richer experience than someone who maintains a strict self-identity without such exploration.
That said, there is a window, if it's still full-on stereotype a decade or two later, it starts becoming unappealing, hehe.
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