So, in the past I forget how much time, in my thinking I've been trying to consider everything, all topics, without all of the biases we're all born with, the arbitrary cultural mess we all have to deal with.
Because, I forget how old I was, 12 or so, my brother was talking with me, and somehow the discussion got political and he advocated to me the legalization of drugs. And I was blown away, that was an idea that had literally never occurred to me. Whatever I thought about drugs, it was exactly how they should be illegal, you could waffle about how they should be enforced, etc, but that they were illegal I always saw as a given.
Because whenever I'd heard drugs mentioned when young, it was that they were illegal, I'd never thought of anything else.
And I'm trying to get rid of that, now. I know that I've grown up in a modern Western society, and that we have cultural things just as arbitrary as other cultures. Our hatred of gays, for example, or our dislike of profanity. Those I think are mostly things people absorb all the time from the age when they're too young to form opinions, and then they're stuck, they believe in them totally for the rest of their lives, they don't need a reason.
And I'm trying to think through how to make the ideas that aren't actually my own thought-through ideas, and are instead arbitrary cultural values, and get rid of those, make sure I've thought through everything I believe, and that I'm not just spitting out someone else's ideas, and then re-evaluate constantly.
But one thing I'm not sure I'll be able to get rid of is gender-biases.
It's just, in our Western societies, from birth we're taught there is a huge difference between genders, they're supposed to like different things.
And I really just don't know.
Because there definitely is a difference between boys and girls, men and women. Physically, and perhaps mentally as well, I dunno.
Do girls only like Barbie because we tell them they're supposed to?
And why the fuck do girls get to wear skirts and it's totally inappropriate for guys to do the same? Chicks don't even have balls capable of overheating and getting uncomfortable. I think skirts and dresses would actually be more ideal for scrotal health.
But for some reason, in society, it's taught that guys wear pants, only pants, or shorts, and girls can usually wear either, but in most formal situations dresses are required.
So I know it's arbitrary how we dress, usually. Those are ideas we've never really thought about, that we've just been taught since birth, and never really thought about, and then we get really weirded out if we see a guy in a dress.
And it makes no fucking sense.
But what about the way we act? Are guys necessarily hardwired to be more stupid, to be more macho?
Are chicks hardwired to not do as much physical labor? To be good at cooking?
I don't think so. But I have no evidence either way. So I really just don't know how I'll ever know the real difference between genders, not just some stupid fucking arbitrary cultural distinction. I think there isn't nearly as big a difference between guys and chicks as society would have us know, (other than guys being vastly more attractive, chicks are lucky) but I can't really know how big the difference really is...
I just wonder if we'll ever be rid of these stupid massive distinctions between genders... Will it ever be normal in the future to see guys who are friends holding hands, just like I sometimes see girls doing now? Or guys will refer to friends as "boyfriends", like my aunt calls her friends her "girlfriends"? Or guys will wear skirts and save their balls from pants?
I dunno. For some reason guys really want to separate themselves from possibly being seen as "girly". I don't understand. No, I don't really want to be a girl, but I don't think being a girl or effeminate guy would be vastly worse than being a guy. And hey, being a girl, at least I'd be able to get guys a lot easier...
Girls don't have the same problem as bad, trying to always prove how un-manly they are, but they're not immune.
So, I just don't know if I can ever really get rid of the arbitrary societal values about genders out of my head, so I can consider the differences between genders truly and frankly, and I don't know if society will ever get there either. I mean, we're on our way, more women find themselves in positions of power, but genders are not treated equally, and I don't think they will be treated so perhaps ever.
Sorry if this was totally disjointed, I have a total headsplitting headache and I'm totally lightheaded right now, and not seemingly in my right mind, so I don't even know how this turned out, I don't have the energy to really think about it, I just had to throw up my ideas onto the computer here.
So what do you guys think?
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But I dunno how to not get my parents suspicious...