So Sunday night was the queer event I mentioned. I decided that I would go. It was so fucking amazing.
At the moment I will do a shorter review of it, but maybe a longer review will be coming, if interest is shown by others.
It was a big group of self-identifying queers/self-identifying punks there. So amazing.
So, anyway, I met a bunch of awesome people there. I met several other transguys and so we talked and hung out and stuff. It was amazing because as my friend (I'll call him Rush) Rush and I were walking over to the person's house where the party thing was, Rush asked me about introductions. He said it was up to me but that no matter what, he'd back me up and take a hint. He said he's like a gender pronoun police. Rush is transgender.
Anyway, I decided that I had the balls to do it. I was going to go grab the bull by the horns.
Rush introduced me to his friends (he knew most of the people there) as Eli, told them I prefer male pronouns. Or he'd say "Oh, and you gotta meet this guy (meaning me) right here!" He was amazing about it. So even though I wasn't binding, people followed. They all called me Eli with not even a question about my gender since a lot of the others were fucking with gender themselves.
It was so great to be called Eli and have male pronouns used in talking about me. At first I thought it would be tough and that maybe I'd forget to look up when people said "Eli," but it didn't happen. Things were more comfortable this way.
And then there was someone else who I knew there, let's call her Rice. Rice has known some of my gender stuff, a lot, actually because I'd talked to her about it before. But I never asked Rice to call me by my preferred name and pronouns because it wasn't appropriate to do so before. But when I went to talk to Rice, Rush was with me. Rush also knew Rice ahead of time. And Rush asked Rice about "this guy" (pointing to me). And Rice said "Oh, he and I met..." GRIN.
Later that night I texted Rice and thanked her for using that male pronoun and saying that it made me feel unbelieveably good and validated. She texted back asking if I had a preferred name and/or pronouns. I texted back saying Eli and to use male pronouns. She said she'd keep it in mind :).
I also have had quite a few exchanges with my ex...lets call her Moto. Moto and I have texted a lot recently, though because of our two schedules, haven't gotten to talk on the phone in ages. Anyway, I told Moto about me having a preferred name and pronouns (and again, I had told Moto some stuff about my gender identity before) and she asked me what the name and pronouns were, I told her. And without me asking, she said "Would you like me to start to call you Eli?" She's amazing.
Last night in a very...intoxicated state, I came out to someone that I didn't plan to and I'm lucky it turned out alright because I really had no clue how the guy would react. He reacted positively, saying that I should do whatever makes me happy and the people who reject me are assholes.
I sort of want to come out. I'm tempted.
I have other stuff to share, but I'll keep this as a positive journal and write another one for the other stuff.