The Cold Crush

Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

I am not a social animal. Starting half a year ago, I have begun to withdraw into myself, to a position where I observe events primarily from a cold, detached perspective. I have lived in a way that I am, in a way, 'not there'. This has shaped my interactions lately. And yet, an exception has come up.

I find myself attracted to a wonderful girl. A beautiful girl. We shall call her Y. I am, I suppose, smitten.

Y is, by my views, physically very impressive and attractive. But that doesn't concern me nearly so much as her mind. She is so very intelligent. She is on par with my intellect, and we have had intelligent conversations. I enjoy that so very much.

I find myself drawn to her. My heart remains quiet, but my mind cries out with a passion. I am so very attracted to her, and I desire a relationship with her that is not based on emotion, but intellectual attraction and intimacy. My best relationships have been based on these, and I find that this is so much more pleasurable than emotional attraction. Yes, emotions may come out of it eventually, but it will not be based on these faulty and fragile chemical imbalances.

Has anyone else ever experienced 'love' this way? (I use the word loosely in this context.)

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ferrets's picture

hmmm

you should read earth abides.

"A loving man and woman in a committed relationship can marry. Dogs, no matter what their relationship, are not allowed to marry. How should society treat gays and lesbians in committed relationships? As dogs or as humans?"

Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

Oh?

Might I ask why this is? I have not heard of it.

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"Reality is a story the mind tells itself. An artificial structure conjured into being by the calcium ion exchange of a million synaptic firings. A truth so strange it can only be lied into existence. And our mind can lie. Never doubt it..."

ferrets's picture

its an old book.

this guy comes out of the wilderness to discover civilization has fallen apart, and vows to wacth the events that follow man being gone from a detached observent position

"A loving man and woman in a committed relationship can marry. Dogs, no matter what their relationship, are not allowed to marry. How should society treat gays and lesbians in committed relationships? As dogs or as humans?"

whateversexual_llama's picture

when i met my girlfriend, we

when i met my girlfriend, we spend our first kisses discussion the sexiness of socialism, the risks of even pure marx communism, our mutual hatred of glenn beck, feminism vs personism, poetry, and social theory.

i have never loved anybody as much as i love her. We both swore to each other that if we ever break up, we will never, ever date stupid people again. It's just not worth it.

true love is more brain than it is heart. best of luck with your girl.

jeff's picture

Hmm...

The mysteries of lesbian foreplay...

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"Why be given a body if you have to keep it locked up in a case like a rare, rare fiddle?" - Katherine Mansfield

radiosilence95's picture

I cannot see myself loving a

I cannot see myself loving a girl who is not intelligent. I love discussing things, and not the things that most girls want to talk about, like the outfit that girl at the mall was wearing or why Kelly is dating Brad. I crave intelligent conversations with people, and if my girlfriend cannot provide me with these, I strongly doubt I'd stay in the relationship.

My standards are rather high. Intelligence, humor, and compassion are just a few of the traits I look for in my future wifey. So, while I definitely see where you're coming from with this girl, I don't think intelligence alone is enough for me, though it does cover most of what I look for in a companion.

Perhaps We Should Leave's picture

Hm.

It is not merely intelligence that is attractive, but primarily.

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"Reality is a story the mind tells itself. An artificial structure conjured into being by the calcium ion exchange of a million synaptic firings. A truth so strange it can only be lied into existence. And our mind can lie. Never doubt it..."