Things I've Realized.

radiosilence95's picture

1) I have a completely different definition of beauty than most people. If you showed me a picture of a model on a magazine cover, and you were like, "Damn, isn't this chick gorgeous?" I'd say no. Not really. I go for a modest, unappreciated kind of beauty. The kind of attractiveness that not everyone notices, but when I notice it, it's amazing. I don't really know how to explain it. The girls in my school who most people see as so-so pretty and/or plain-looking, I see as gorgeous.

2) I don't bond with other girls very easily, and the few times that I have bonded with a girl, I always ended up depending on them too much and crushing on them and stuff. It's never a balance. I'm either too casual in the friendship, or I throw my entire self into it and I hurt myself.

3) I have a crush on my sixth-grade teacher. I saw her at a restaurant last night, and she had tattoos on her arms. I mean, whoa. A teacher with tattoos and is artsy and intelligent and strange and attractive? Yes please. If only I were 15 years older...

4) I need to keep going to counseling. I thought I could quit going, but there's still things I need help working through. So, once my counselor returns from her maternity leave, I will be going again. She had a daughter by the way. I need to congratulate her when I go again.

5) I really, really, really want a girlfriend. Soooo bad. I'm sick of not knowing what it's like to hold hands with someone and hug them and cuddle with them and tell them I love them. I want that. My friends all have boyfriends. They have someone to call when they're bored or lonely, someone they're comfortable with and can just be themselves with. Why can't I have that?

6) My style is changing. I used to wear strictly skinny jeans and T-shirts. Now I wear lots of sophisticated stuff that shows off my curves. These new shirts aren't overwhelmingly girly, but they make me feel more attractive. So yay for that.

Comments

Dracofangxxx's picture

Let me respond to your listypoo~

1.) I kinda understand that, too. I mean I can appreciate a pretty girl, but the over-the-top gorgeous people that people gawk over, I just don't get. They look weird to me. I like people who aren't paper thin, with some really determining trait (Like an extremely big nose or something), and are mostly average. I dunno, I focus more on their personality that way.

5.) lol me

6.) I went through that change too, even though I'm a mondo tomboy. Feeling sexy = better than looking awkward in men's clothing, even if it's comfy.
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That's redick!

radiosilence95's picture

1) Model gorgeousness is

1) Model gorgeousness is like...it's just a bland, cheap kind of beauty, y'know? Like there's not much depth to it. So it's all meh whatever.

5) .... ;D

6) I still like my Cookie Monster and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles T-shirts (among many others), but I don't mind wearing a nice shirt too. I feel attractive in the nice shirts and tomboyishly cool in the tees. I'm freakin Hannah Montana, gettin' the best of both worlds :P

jeff's picture

I'm confused...

Models on magazine covers are not really meant to convey normal beauty or somesuch. They are meant to sell magazines. So, this seems built on a faulty premise, in that people can tell the difference between what you consider beauty and what is on a magazine, but one doesn't sell magazines. Probably a case to be made here, but the magazine element sort of throws it off... no?

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"Why be given a body if you have to keep it locked up in a case like a rare, rare fiddle?" - Katherine Mansfield

Just Dave's picture

Yes

Change up them there pronouns, and I identify with pretty much everything in this journal. Except for the teacher bit, because I don't know what she looks like and I'm into dudes. Also the counselor bit.

Also, I love lists. It makes writing, reading, and responding to journals much easier if you have multiple topics to discuss.

Super Duck's picture

I am very tired so this comment is like nonsensical

1.) Most of the girls I find attractive do seem to be that kind of "model-gorgeous" you speak of, I guess. Amber Heard, Kate Upton, Old Crush and her magnificent boobs... Haha. But not FCG. A lot of people think she is fairly average-looking but she is her own kind of pretty. Like you'd have to see her to understand. I would rather have her instead of all those other girls combined anyway, though.

3.) One time in 4th grade I had a crush on my teacher... But I can't remember why. I think she had a cool voice or something.

5.) I know this feeling allll too well. :'(

6.) I've been through many style changes. Believe it or not, when I was really little I dressed completely like a boy; the only feminine thing about my appearance was my hair and when I would occasionally wear shirts with kittens on them. Then, when I was like 11, I became one of those wannabe emo kids... And finally, when I was around 13, my aunt showed me the joys of clothes that actually fit and I've dressed rather femininely ever since and I actually really like it.

Anyway yeah it's 4 a.m. I better go attempt sleep now and stop trying to form sentences on the internet

radiosilence95's picture

I totally went through an

I totally went through an emo phase too. Black t-shirts, black Converses, skinny jeans...I even had an emo outlook on life to match XD

Thank goodness I grew out of that.

Nanook's picture

From Mika: "I was walking

From Mika:
"I was walking with my Mama one day, when she warned me what people say.
Live your life until love is found, or love's gonna get you down."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6md5RSnVUuo

jeff's picture

So...

You prefer the person at the start of this video, and not the end?

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"Why be given a body if you have to keep it locked up in a case like a rare, rare fiddle?" - Katherine Mansfield

radiosilence95's picture

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Yup. I definitely do.

Dracofangxxx's picture

I always love watching this video!

And, well, I agree, too. The girl at the beginning looks pretty in an approachable, real way. And like, while she still looks pretty beautiful at the end, it's just not... human? I can't really imagine seeing someone looking like that in real life.
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That's redick!

GenerationsGapped's picture

I once asked my fiance why

I once asked my fiance why he's strictly into smooth and pale chubby guys, he told me they're really easy to massage (no mohair!), won't have leather skin down the road, and they're what make his little brain excited!

I'm not complaining : )

C.J. is a 21 year old chubby heavy metal fanatic living Green in the South. Believe it or not he's really gay!

loreonpravus's picture

Oh boy a list to respond to

1. People don't look like magazine covers unless they're coming straight from a magazine cover shoot. Society hasn't caught on yet, hence our unrealistic standards of beauty. However, I'm pretty sure we subconsciously realize this, because people go chasing for all types of ladies and gentlemen anyway.

2. When you're young, things swing from crazy extremes. There's no middle ground. It takes time to learn to guard your heart, and to figure out which feeling is which emotion, and then sometimes some feelings don't even have words for them. Isn't this fun?!

3. My teacher crush track record is ridiculous. I've lost count of the number of after-school hours office visit fantasies I've had. *ahem* they can be very attractive, no?

4. Always good to have someone to talk to and support you. Oh, and ask to see pictures! Babies are so darn cute.

5. You will. Promise. Unless you become an axe murderer. Actually, in that eventuality you'll probably end up getting a prison girlfriend and let's stop the theorizing here.

In all seriousness, though... patience. I know the feeling so well and I can tell you when everything falls into place, that first moment is worth the long, arduous wait right now.

6. Ties.

radiosilence95's picture

Bleck. I don't want the

Bleck. I don't want the craziness and instability that comes with this age. I want stability, security, all that good stuff. But I think I have the patience to wait it out. Good things are waiting for me.

I love ties. If only my mom would let me wear them...

loreonpravus's picture

Remind me when your birthday

Remind me when your birthday rolls around and I'll get you a tie. Somehow. I'll mail it to you and then you can wear it when your mom isn't looking =D

radiosilence95's picture

Awww how thoughtful of you.

Awww how thoughtful of you. If only that were possible XD