Bisexual Shaming
Kind of sucks because two of my relatives do it, which makes it hard for me to come out.
My mom said once something along the lines of that nobody's really bisexual, they're just really gay and just switch over occassionally. She played softball and has tons of lesbian friends, one that got married to a man and had kids and is a lesbian now, and she probably takes that as being no "middle ground".
And then my sister said something just like that, where she was like "I don't care if a man calls himself bisexual, that just means he's gay". And she's also really not-nice sometimes about gays "I just don't like it when they flaunt it in my face", and stuff.
And I dunno, it's like, I don't want my family to think I'm just going through a phase. I don't think people often understand how hard it is to be taken seriously when you say you're legitimately bisexual. People dismiss it because they think you're just experimenting or something, which actually is true in a lot of cases, but certainly not MINE.
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yeah,
and i dont much like it when straight people go around being all striaght. they should keep it in the bedroom >=( heh, but realy, people are stupid about bisexauls. i have this one friend that any time she hears about a girl being bisexual, she rolls her eyes and says how stupid it is. and yeah, i get that some girls are just saying they are bisexaul, for whatever reason, but that doesnt mean you should assume that all girls who say they are bi are just being stupid.
it really sucks how uninformed your family is :/
"A loving man and woman in a committed relationship can marry. Dogs, no matter what their relationship, are not allowed to marry. How should society treat gays and lesbians in committed relationships? As dogs or as humans?"
GOSH STRAIGHT PEOPLE
STOP ACTING SO STRAIGHT IN MY FACE ALL THE TIME >:|
See, like, I mean, with people who come out as gay and their parents get mad, I kinda envy that. Because at least they're being taken seriously D: It's so hard to get people to respect my bisexualness. So I really just act a ton more gay in real life, and then people get the idea. I hate the girls who are like "Yeah I kissed a girl and I didn't explode, so I must be bisexual!", because they really give us a bad name.
And yeup. I mean my mom's accepting but I feel like she'd rather have me be straight or gay. Nothing in between. Like, there's so many people who think bisexuals are sluts. Like this one girl at my school, who says that about me :|
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That's redick!
I've heard people say that
I've heard people say that kind of stuff a lot about bisexuals, but only the girls. The people I know usually tend to believe guys but never girls.
I've also seen a lot of other gay people say anti-bisexual stuff on the internet! That was pretty shocking to me.
I have a hard enough time getting people to believe I'm a lesbian... If I was bisexual and had to get people to believe me, oh my god I can't even imagine.
What sucks about it...
Is half of the people think you're gay and just trying to act straight for society, and half of the people think that you're straight and just going through a phase. And it's like, NO, I'm not EITHER. Yes, I'm gay, but I'm straight too, and I can't really just "pick a side".
It's kinda silly, because you'd THINK it would be easier for bisexuals, but that's not always the case. People don't take you seriously, so it's a little easier being out, but it feels really stupid. Like nobody trusts you or anything :I
and oh my god off topic but Secret Squirrel is on TV and I am so happy oh god
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That's redick!
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I dont like the fact that people just think bisexuals are just sex driven. They think that because they cant choose between the sex's, it means they are just greedy people and crave more. Even though i am gay i have seen media things that have exploited bi's in not so very nice manner
Agreed!
I knew I was bisexual BEFORE I had sex. So, their argument is invalid!
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That's redick!
So...your sister is opposed
So...your sister is opposed to people flaunting their gayness in her face? Haha, I chuckled at that for some reason. What about the straight bigots who flaunt their straightness in our faces, huh? :|
There ARE a lot of bi girls who are just experimenting. Some of my friends claim to be bi, but...I dunno. It seems to be a fad nowadays. Not that you aren't a true, hardcore bi chick or anything. So yeah, while a lot of bi girls are just experimenting, it's unfair to apply that to EVERY bisexual girl out there.
Maybe I should have a talk with your family... :P
Those girls...
Kinda bring shame to me. I always have to tell people that I'm a "real" bisexual, cause they look at me skeptically :I
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That's redick!
Well,
I identify as Pomosexual (post-modern sexuality, AKA no way to describe it) but most people understand that to be bisexual (it ain't). And I understand how you feel. I was hesitant to come out as anything but gay at first, amusingly, because I was ashamed of being bisexual (I thought I was bi then).
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If there is a god, why couldn't he have given me wings?
I mean,
I really would just rather be a lesbian and simplify things. But I suppose that's kinda lame. I can't just come out as gay either cause then it makes things weird for my parents if I get boyfriends and whatnot. Bleh :|
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That's redick!
Bisexuality, is, in a way,
Bisexuality, is, in a way, incompatible with monogamy, as everybody else views it. If you're with a guy, you're straight, if you're with a girl, you're gay. People don't know that the actual person is attracted to both sexes, they just see their mate and draw a conclusion based on that.
Also, "bi" girls- you know the ones who make out with girls just to get guys' attention- they are probably a huge part of the reason people don't take bi girls seriously. Bi guys don't really have this particular problem, as straight boys are not in the practice of playing tongue hockey to get girls.
But like I said, it's the whole concept of pairing off in twos which causes all the pigeonholing.
Oh, I guess I understand that.
But yeah, that's why I can't stand watching "lesbian" porn- I can tell when it's two straight girls :I and it makes me really annoyed to watch that because it makes me feel embarrassed to be assosciated with them.
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That's redick!
Yeah...
I hate porn where the people aren't in love with one another.
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"Why be given a body if you have to keep it locked up in a case like a rare, rare fiddle?" - Katherine Mansfield
How true!
So very true!
Of course...
I wasn't serious, heh.
The giveaway for lesbian porn is if they have big long fingernails, then you know they aren't lesbians with those big red yeast incubators.
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"Why be given a body if you have to keep it locked up in a case like a rare, rare fiddle?" - Katherine Mansfield
Sorry....
I actually hoped/thought you were serious. It certainly sounded plausible.
Oh, well...
HAHAHA :D
Jeff, that is amazing.
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That's redick!
I'm not sure if you're mocking me XP
But it's different when you can tell the girls aren't even attracted to EACH OTHER, nonetheless are "in love", you know? It's like, whut. Total boner ruining moment.
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That's redick!
I didn't see it as mocking...
I guess we are all a bit different in what we like or dislike...
But I, personally, find it rather off-putting to view (or, just imagine) simulated sexual activity between two individuals if it's not perceived that genuine mutual affection exists. The operative proviso here is the viewer's perception. Therefore... whether it's on stage or film, the action must come across as sincere...
Yet... there is a totally different set of requirements if only one individual or an artful drawing is the subject. Here, it all depends on how the viewer's brain creates its own reality... :)
It does get complicated!
I don't really find porn
I don't really find porn attractive, I simply use it as a tool for when imagining something doesn't work.
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"Reality is a story the mind tells itself. An artificial structure conjured into being by the calcium ion exchange of a million synaptic firings. A truth so strange it can only be lied into existence. And our mind can lie. Never doubt it..."
But I like the fake lesbian porn...
What? I didn't say anything! :P
That's 'cause you like them
That's 'cause you like them blonde femmy girls! =P
I find that scenes in movie and TV where the characters have really good chemistry and are into each other does a lot more for me than fake lesbian porn. Just... passion is hot, I guess.
Hahaha that is true. And
Hahaha that is true. And there are quite a few of those in fake lesbian porn! :P
Hot scenes in movies are nice too. Haha.
Haha!
You even like the parts where they give blowjobs to a realistic penis dildo?? :D
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That's redick!
Hahah NOOO. I try to find
Hahah NOOO. I try to find porn without any super realistic penis dildoes! Sometimes that is not easy.