Decisions, Decisions...

centerfielder08's picture

I decided to not go on Oasis for a while because a certain someone really offended me.

But then, thanks to a little baby rainbowsy, I was convinced to come back.

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arata13's picture

Well that's good Eli. I

Well that's good Eli. I missed seeing you around. Have a few 'Coming Back' cookies! *holds out plate*

centerfielder08's picture

These are such YUMMY

These are such YUMMY cookies!! Thank you, thank you!

radiosilence95's picture

I hope that certain someone

I hope that certain someone wasn't me...

centerfielder08's picture

No way, are you kidding me?!

No way, are you kidding me?! I LOVE your comments (and no, I'm not being sarcastic)

radiosilence95's picture

*sighs in relief*

Good. I was trying to think back to any comments I made on your journal and other people's that could've offended you. Cuz sometimes I worry about offending people on this site.

*blushes because of your compliment*

SydCybertronian's picture

weren't you here yesterday?

(Is honestly curious, and not judging in any way at all please don't take it wrong.) *stepping on eggshells XD*

centerfielder08's picture

Heh, yeah, I was. But I

Heh, yeah, I was. But I decided this morning/last night that I was going to stay off of here for weeks. Maybe lurk as a guest (not signed in). Because I was just that turned off by the comment.

So its like I barely started my boycott...I only made it from morning til afternoon/early evening which is when the baby rainbowsy helped me realize that I shouldn't let others stop me.

Human101's picture

Not to be a dick or anything

Not to be a dick or anything but someone is always going to offend you ( not YOU in specific but as humans in general) we'll always be offended by something but boycotting something that helps you in the long run? I'd just ignore the ignorant or offensive comment and move on, don't linger on it.

ferrets's picture

hmmm

*ferret hugs* you wouldnt belive how good ferret hugs feel :) cuase ferrets are so warm and furry :)

"A loving man and woman in a committed relationship can marry. Dogs, no matter what their relationship, are not allowed to marry. How should society treat gays and lesbians in committed relationships? As dogs or as humans?"

whateversexual_llama's picture

*hug and luvvs* if it's a

*hug and luvvs* if it's a story i want to know tell it to me on the chat sometime. ^^

whateversexual_llama's picture

*hug and luvvs* if it's a

*hug and luvvs* if it's a story i want to know tell it to me on the chat sometime. ^^

Dracofangxxx's picture

I'm not sure who you mean...

Nobody said anything offensive as far as I saw, unless it was in a PM.

And if you mean me, considering you guys think I'm apparently the most offensive one on here or something like that, well I didn't either.
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Amazingly offensive <3

MacAvity's picture

I second this confusion. I

I second this confusion.
I also really hope it wasn't me - I'm going to worry now until you tell me it wasn't me. And if it was me, then I'm really, really sorry, and meant no offence at all, because I could never mean to offend you, Eli.

centerfielder08's picture

No, no, it wasn't you. I

No, no, it wasn't you. I would almost never ever think you'd be out (pun intended) to offend me.

~Eli.

Dracofangxxx's picture

So it WAS me?

lol edit time

it's funny cause you keep ignoring it, so I know it's true
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Amazingly offensive <3

centerfielder08's picture

Okay, fine, yes, it was you.

Okay, fine, yes, it was you. I understand that you mean well, but without any personal knowledge on what I'm going through, seeing as we haven't exchanged PMs or anything, it really bothered me when you wrote that.

Yes, I understand the need for me to be independent and self-reliant. But that time really is not right now. I'm working on it, yes, but gradually in steps. Not all at once.

See in my head there's this voice that's always trying to bring me down and it says the same thing--that I don't need therapy and I should fucking stop talking about every little thing that comes up, and keep it all to myself. But the times I've tried that when in emotional pain like now, its been more self-destructive than helpful.

Sometimes, we all need people. Right now, I cannot stand alone, but that doesn't mean I'm not trying.

Dracofangxxx's picture

Well if I remember,

You were asking whether to keep your new therapist. And I gave you MY OPINION. Seriously. Nothing I say you HAVE to do. I'm not forcing you to do anything. But it's true- I've seen how attatched and almost obsessed with your old therapist you are. That's why I said it, and I stick by it- You're already just clawing back to her even when you know she can't really be with you.

I don't have to have personal knowledge to give my opinion and advice- Otherwise, why would people GO to people for advice on here? We can't all BE the other person, just pretend we are for a minute.
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Amazingly offensive <3

centerfielder08's picture

No... I wasn't asking for

No... I wasn't asking for anything. I was saying that I'm trying to think of the pros and cons of my situation. Even if I asked for advice, it was about quitting therapy...AKA nothing and I mean absolutely nothing about my old therapist.

Many of the people that have commented on my journals are ones I talk to one on one and don't know me only from journals I've written... That's what I mean when I said you don't know me.

I hear your opinion but to me it isn't valid because it makes me feel like shit and that I'm not a human being. I already hate myself enough, I don't need to worsen the hatred within my body, mind, heart, and soul.

Dracofangxxx's picture

What?

I never said you weren't human or anything. Are you crazy? I mean, your defensiveness about your therapy just proves my point- You're relying on it too much. I'm telling you that I'm not trying to hurt you. Even my advice is FOR you to feel BETTER.

Anyways, yes, I did answer your question- To quit therapy until you absolutely need it. What I told you was to help you feel better IN YOUR BODY, MIND AND SOUL. I don't have to know you personally to know that you need to learn take care of yourself a little more. What I've read in your journals tell me that already.

I mean, I wasn't malicious or anything! I've BEEN in your position, I had a great counselor and she helped me through the tough times. But then I had to let her go. I didn't need her anymore. There's a fine line between letting someone do their job and help you, and relying on them. That's all I was saying. If you keep going through these mood swings, you've gotta learn to tell YOURSELF that it'll be okay. I mean, yes, you've got little voices in your head that tell you know. But you're the boss of them! You're your own person and you totally have the power to do it. You've just gotta keep trying and learning. It's completely a learning experience.

Anyways- I'm not pulling this advice just out of my ass. Last summer I checked out a bunch of books about depression and depression pills and why you get depressed and how to help in ways that aren't temporary- And they require huge lifestyle changes.
I mean, I'm only trying to help you, but you're like, spitting in my face. How dare I suggest something different than anyone else on here! How dare I not just give you a copy/paste answer!

Why does everyone on this site get so pissed off whenever I try to help? I mean, I'm saying this as nicely as possible and HO MY GOSH HERE I GO AND OFFEND EVERYONE STILL. I mean, what do you want me to say?
"Oh lol stay with your new therapist cause she makes you feel like shit and I love that"
or like
"lulz just quit with that therapist and then cry for hours and be depressed forevar"

I mean, no! That's not only stupid and unhelpful, THAT is demeaning you to an inhuman level. But I told you: To stop therapy. What you asked. And then I just tried to help you learn to cope with the change.

So seriously... Why would that offend you? I don't even get it. How can telling you to practice healthy treatment of yourself OFFEND you? Do you like feeling like this all the time without being able to control it on your own?

Emotions don't just come- They have to be tamed. If you don't work on it, they'll control you.
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Amazingly offensive <3

Dracofangxxx's picture

Oh, whoops, I sound sort of douchey,

I meant "I didn't mean to, and it wasn't intended to be offensive" or whatever.
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Amazingly offensive <3

radiosilence95's picture

I wouldn't really describe

I wouldn't really describe you as offensive. You're just very outspoken and you're not afraid of saying what's on your mind, and some people are taken aback by that. Which I like.

Okay. I'll go away now.

Dracofangxxx's picture

You don't have to go away, I like you :P

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Amazingly offensive <3

funnyflyby's picture

Well, see, I was back for five minutes and already awesome.

What else would you expect from someone as

FABULOUS

*coughcoughMacAvitysaysomethingcoughcough*

as me?
Wow.woW

MacAvity's picture

Say what? That you are

Say what? That you are indeed fabulous? You are. Fantastic, too. And terrific.
And so is Eli!