okay. what the hell. >.>
this was a conversation between me and one of my "friends" named Sara who after this convo I am no longer friends with. Thought I would share.... (this was my texting if your wondering...)
me: Hey, After today I am nolonger going by Grant. I'm going to start going by Ayumi and will start correcting people. So... could you just save me the trouble and use it?
sara:Uh..... sry but no
me: Um yeah, I consider you as a friend so out of respect for who I am you should. It's the nice thing to do.
sara: yes I'm your friend but I dont support your lifestyle choice. Im sorry if that offends you but I have a set of beliefs i go by and calling you a girl name goes against my morals...
me:Fine then. dont respect me. thanks alot... >.>
sara:im sorry... :/
me: and fyi: being trans isn't a lifestyle choice just like sexuality isnt.
Also, just because it goes against your morals dosent mean you shouldnt respect them all the same...
sara:I tolerate it. I refuse to support it.
me: well then your 1: not respecting me and 2: not being a good friend
sara;Im sorry that you feel that way. Its just that I care about you as a friend but I dont support your sin and im not going to be a part of it. Im sorry.
me: And thats where the line is crossed. Im done.
sara: Fine. im sorry you refuse to respect my beliefs. You are being just as inconsiderate as you think i am being.
any thoughts here????
If you are not getting confirmation e-mails from Oasis to complete your membership, don't hesitate to e-mail jeff at oasismag dot com. Be sure to include your username.
Recent articles
Recent journal entries
Active forum topics
- The Curse of Reparative Therapy
- First Book: 'Keeping You A Secret' By Julie Anne Peters
- A Kids Reaction To A Gay Couple
- The Importance Of Giving Feedback
- Can you envisage an any more pointless existence?
- Advice?
- Will Portman - Son of Ohio's Senator Portman: His Column on Coming Out
- Can you imagine the vitriol unleashed by Republicans…
- coming out
- Islam and Homosexuality
Comments
Losing a friend...
...over this issue is truly sad!
Insisting that her friendship is conditional upon your behaving according to what her ideology (religion?) dictates... is quite unfortunate.
Somewhat petty isn't it that all that's involved is just a name?
thats true... but shes
thats true... but shes always been a total bitch to me concering my sexuality... and i was planning to drop her as a friend already so...
I think your both being a
I think your both being a bit idiotic.
It's a name.
I'm not saying I don't know the power in a name but still...
Her beliefs might restrict the way she can act but where does it say that it's a sin to be the way you truly are and then if you feel it nessasary changing your body to suit that feeling.
And she's right about the way you're acting. If you don't want her as a friend then just say so. You don't need to wait for her to do something that you don't like and then use that as an excuse for officially ending your frendship.
Look i'm sorry if I come off bitchy, but i'm trying out for a sport and I'm sore all over.
Bye
(*-_-*) zzzZZZ
meh!
*squeezes head* meh! thats foolish. would she ask a muslim to remove her head dress becuase it interfered with her belief? no! well idk, but i should hope not! and this is even more so, becuase a muslim chooses to be a muslim, and to wear the head dress, whil you dont choose a thing, besides being true to yourself! well, thats really screwwed up :/ oh by the way, HI AYUMI!
"A loving man and woman in a committed relationship can marry. Dogs, no matter what their relationship, are not allowed to marry. How should society treat gays and lesbians in committed relationships? As dogs or as humans?"
I would say...
that she isn't sinning to call you a different name. That she misunderstands that sinning and befriending a sinner is a completely different thing. Supporting the people you love is okay, in fact, I read in a book that Jesus did not only like, speak to sinners- But he never tried to make them change.
I could be wrong.
Jesus spoke to EVERYONE as like, equals. So she should treat you as an equal, just as you put up with her beliefs making her disrespect you like that.
I don't know. I'm not good with religion at all.
typed it wrong. she said i
typed it wrong. she said i was the sinner for being trans
Oh, okay XD Cause I was confused there~
But still, supporting your "sin" isn't against her religion. She's not being forced to sin at all. So uh... I dunno. I mean, yeah, you don't really HAVE to be her friend, but I understand how you feel about trying to keep her as your friend.
im not keeeping her as a
im not trying keep her as a friend in the slightest....
Well...
I am sorry this happened. Perhaps it's for the best, if your beliefs are in so much conflict, but even so, it's sad.
I admire your courage in even trying and asking people to call you by your new name (which is a beautiful name, by the way).
My take on this : Its not a
My take on this :
Its not a sin at all.
I would say then, that its not important to have someone like her as a friend.
Dr. Seuss said something along the lines of "Those who mind, don't matter and those who matter don't mind". I think its really fitting in here, this situation.
I know it may be hard because losing a friend consciously and knowingly is soooo hard, but long-term there's no reason you and her should be friends if she brings you down for being who you are. You are always Ayumi even if you're still called Grant.
*hugs*
I'm here if you ever want to chat.