So um. Ew. Breakups are the worst. Oh, I guess I'll expand on that, instead of leaving a random (true) statement floating around my head. I broke up with my 6-month boyf (codename: Paul) for lots of reasons.. But the point being I can't get over it and I don't know why. I'm over him, but not the relationship (friendship), if that makes sense? Plus I'm in the in between stage, where I still kind of like him but logic (of the fact that he was only ever nice to me) is going against the crush. Also, he's not taking it well, being really immature and stuff. He'd always had this thing that bugged me where he'd ask a question, and ask me to explain my answer, but get mad when I did. Example, when we broke up:
Paul: why are you crying?
Me: *explains frustrations with relationship*
Paul: okay we're not having this convo now
I see him every day at school and we have a lot of mutual friends. While being great for when we were together, it creates a lot of awkward opportunities for him to pointedly ignore me or my attempts at conversation. One of my best friends took me out for ice cream and gave me a HUGE bag of candy, both of which helped me, but what do I do for/with Paul? I feel like if I give him space and time to deal, we won't be friends. But he's resisting any type of friendly behavior. Catch 22. Oh.. edit: he recently started talking to me... but asked (even more recently) to get back together.
How do you cope with breakups/exs? Advice for me?