Noticed how you clicked on the title because it was the word "sex"? Yeah. I could market shit. I actually am going to talk about sex though, that wasn't just me being an ass and titling the journal "sex" to get people to click on it... Although, that is something I would do. :P
So... Even though I'm basically functionally asexual, I'm a pretty sex positive person. I think that a lot of issues would be solved if people weren't so uptight about sex. I don't see what the deal is really. Um... When it comes down to it it's really just the stimulation of some nerves and the releasing of some hormones and fluids... Haha. I figure as long as everyone involved is consenting and responsible... Why the hell should it matter to anyone else?
I don't like the word "slut" for example. (It actually bothers me as much as the word "fag" does... Which is a lot.) Next time I hear it someone's in for a lecture. If a woman is sexually promiscuous... That's her business and and the business of her partners... Nobody else's really. Or if a woman wants to dress in a provocatively or show off her body, power to her. I mean, everyone has a body. If she happens to feel empowered by dressing that way, go her. Furthermore, most people who get called "sluts" aren't sexually promiscuous, nor do they dress provocatively. Women just call other women that because the woman in question makes them feel insecure... It's dumb. And enforces the idea that women shouldn't want sex. Like, there's this idea that sex is something women should kind of have once they've got a partner but they shouldn't go looking for sex or actively want it. It's stupid.
I also honestly don't understand what the big deal with nudity is... It's just a body. Everyone has one... Kind of how it works. Whoop-de-doo. Can we as a culture move on now? It's like when I talk about my figure drawing class "YOU MEAN THERE WAS A NAKED WOMAN? IN YOUR CLASSROOM?" Umm. Yes. There was a naked woman. In my classroom. Naked DOES NOT equal sexual. But that's the way this culture treats it... Makes me nuts.
Another thing... It surprises me on a regular basis how uncreative most people are about sex... Like, a lot of people don't consider oral sex to be sex.. Um.. Hello? It has the word sex right in it. :P
There are some people who would go so far as to say that if a penis doesn't go in something, it's not sex... Ummm, where does that leave lesbians? I know for a fact that there are lesbians with some very active sex lives, but according to that definition, they'd be virgins. Go figure.
But I mean, I guess sex is subjective, but that stuff kind of enforces the idea that getting physically stimulated in some way that isn't coital... Isn't as valid somehow? I don't like that.
And then there are people who don't even -consider- that there are other ways to have sex. (these are the people who ask "how do lesbians have sex?" because they honestly have no idea) That just blows my mind. (Haha. Blows.) Like.. Just wow. I don't even know what to say to people like that.
So I feel like these people's sex lives must be terribly boring if they think that all there is to sex is sticking a penis in a vagina. I get the feeling that this attitude is less common among people people who are older than high-school aged... But at the same time... There are a lot of people who are sexually active in high school. And I mean, while you're in high school, that's a pretty freaking good time to be creative about sex because if you're only doing the penis-vagina thing, someone's a lot more likely to get preggers.
So I mean. Sex education should really be "there are a lot of ways to have sex without spreading STD's and/or having children (which is kind of like an STD)." and "THIS IS A CONDOM. USE IT." and "non-coital sex is still sex. Get over it." But instead it's all "DON'T HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED." though, the sex-ed in my school wasn't too bad, we did go over birth control and stuff. It was funny, my teacher said that he was supposed to tell us not to have sex until marriage, and he kind of glorified the idea for us a little bit... (I honestly think the whole thing is silly. I want to know what being married to someone is like -before- I marry them...) But he also explained that he didn't really expect us not to have sex until marriage.
I mean, people act like teenagers have gotten more sexual.. But I mean, it used to be that you turned 13 and you were an adult. What's really changed is our standard on age, not people. And while our standard on age is justifiable because most people who are still in high school can't support a child. It's still kind of ridiculous that people expect teenagers to simply not have sex at all if you tell them not to have sex at all. Sure, there are people who will, but there are plenty that won't.
Okay. I'm done ranting about sex now... Yeah, I went on for a while... I always do that... What can I say? Stamina central right here. ;)
Seriously though... Done now. :P
Comments
I liked your paragraph about
I liked your paragraph about the word "slut" and sort-of agree... The concept only bothers me because it's single-gendered, however a lot of people I know now use it regardless of gender, so it doesn't bother me as much.
Sex ed does need reform... I think teenagers should be taught about having safe sex in safe relationships, not about abstinence. All I remember from sex ed is how to put on a condom, aha.
i agree...
but isn't the word 'bastard'/MF/CS...etc.etc.etc. used in the same way for males? just because we want to put down someone we use all-encompassing slurs...it's idiotic!
"to live a day alone, only THAT would be torture! An hour without you, only THAT would be death!" ~gomez addams
Sex ed: STI's and condoms.
Sex ed: STI's and condoms. That was about it.
If you're a woman who's not having sex with a penis safe sex is almost nonexistent. The only thing that ever seems to be done is oh here, have a handful of condoms. oh two girls? LA LA LA WHAT DID YOU SAY I WAS SINGING TOO LOUD TO MYSELF-
The culture's a lot different in Europe. I remember having a conversation with someone who filmed a German commercial for ice cream, and he told me he was was thinking things like "...shouldn't that be covered?", etc. I think over there where they have hundreds of cultures it's kind of a necessity to be more accepting of different ideas and people and stuff.
"to live a day alone, only
"to live a day alone, only THAT would be torture! An hour without you, only THAT would be death!" ~gomez addams
I actually (sort of
I actually (sort of accidentally) came out in a sex-ed class because I was so damn sick of it being heterosexually driven. I mean I just spent the entire class thinking DOES NOT APPLY...we talked about gay dude sex, but never lesbian sex, so the next year in sex ed I asked about lesbian STD protection and my teacher just said "latex barriers" and I'm like, wow, can we get less specific? DOES NOT HELP! it pissed me off.
just a thought...
did she mean Dental Dams? because that's what our sex ed class recommended for female/female sex and or analingus...those or a condom that was halved lengthwise...
"to live a day alone, only THAT would be torture! An hour without you, only THAT would be death!" ~gomez addams
hehe
i never got a sex ed class. my school thought it was unnecesary until highschool.
More people have been slaughtered in the name of religion than for any other single reason. That, my friends, that is true perversion.
-Harvey Milk
You should watch the movie
You should watch the movie "Kinsey." I think you'd find it interesting. I am often baffled about how/why people are so reserved about sex. It's a natural urge!!