I'm in a polyamorous relationship in which my boyfriend's girlfriend is abusive. I can't deal with only one other person knowing any more.

He tried to break up with her but she convinced him to stay..

I was so relieved that I'd finally have him to myself and be able to be more public with him without worrying that she would respond to said publicness by causing panic attacks or.. whatever the hell she does to him. Now I get to continue worrying every time I text him and he takes a while to respond that she's there and reading his texts to make sure that I don't text him, because I know that if I do text him while she's there she freaks out on him..

I can't tell him to break up with her because that just makes everything worse.. because that's not what you're supposed to do. I've done as much research as I could on abusive relationships and that's the only thing that any website has ever said: 'only the person in the relationship can decide that it's time to end it.'

I thought he finally had.. I didn't have to worry anymore. Fuckk.

What the hell am I supposed to do?

Just sit back and watch, apparently..