The deed is done
I finally came out to my dad.
He blocked everything on my computer. I had to tell him why I needed to come here. So I had to tell him I was gay.
He had to have a discussion with me. He said he loved me for who I was, and it was how it was. He also said he had known for a while. He just picked it up. He said he wouldn't tell my mom, but if I needed his help for doing so, that he would help. It'll probably take me a while for that. I imagine she'll have a worse reaction, and I need to wait for a less stressed and more energetic period in my life. I have no time or energy to deal with her.
For some reason, I continue to want to cry. I have not been very successful in holding back tears.
I have a headache, still want to cry, and have maybe another hour of homework. Tonight is going to fucking SUCK.
I'm sure I'll feel better after I get a good nights sleep. Then, I have swimming tommorow, which oddly enough I CAN'T WAIT FOR even though I was in the pool 3 hours ago. Swimming is so cool. Then I have a swim meet on Bainbridge Island, and the whole team is staying in the same hotel, so we all get to stay together. We have fun.
I feel like shit now, but tommorow, the day after, and the weekend are looking up. Ooh, and the weekend after next we go the Grand Canyon for backpacking. Love it.
I feel better already.
Though I still want to cry...
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chad...
if i look back at your first journal, you were stuck in a realationsip with a GIRL. now this. can you belive the progress?
if your ever super sad, just rember, you could have been a blowjob.
Congrats...
It just gets easier as you go...
Why want to cry, though? Just cry. Easier.
Of course, reading this, you should be very happy. Your dad knows and wants to support you. No screaming. No questioning if it's true. He lets you on here. Just support, openness and love.
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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain
Not neccesarily...
He said he might block here. Should I happen to dissapear sometime soon, it's probably my dad's fault.
I somehow doubt he'll block it and keep it blocked though. I can make my case.
"Words are useless, especially sentences. They don't stand for anything. How can they explain how I feel?"~Madonna, Bedtime Story
what...
would be his reasoning for blocking oasis?
if your ever super sad, just rember, you could have been a blowjob.
My dad...
Is extremely freak-ish about his Internet. He doesn't like things happening that have the slightest possibility of anything bad happening. I seriously doubt anything bad WOULD happen, but hey.
"Words are useless, especially sentences. They don't stand for anything. How can they explain how I feel?"~Madonna, Bedtime Story
:)
congrats!
its ok.....i think. lol. im sure it'll all be ok.
my mom doesnt want me going on oasis either but i sneak here lol, luckily google has incognito mode. dont have to be covering my tracks as much.
"chhhhhikinnnn stewwww. i have no idea what is wrong with me O_O im sorry if i offend....not really."
It's great that you were
It's great that you were able to come out to your dad, and also glad that he reacted so well. Like Jeff said, it just gets easier as you go along, not because the people you're telling are are going to react one way or the other, but because with each step, you become more sure of who you are, and more confident in your own identity.
I share Matt's bewilderment about why he would block you from here. I guess that's because I already know how many kids have been helped, and how many lives have been saved because Oasis has been here for them, and how fiercely protective we are of you all. I think, unfortunately, most parents see us as a the enemy, which makes me very sad.
As far as crying goes, I've done a whole lot myself these past few weeks. Sometimes it's just the only thing that works, and the reasons why don't really matter. Don't worry about whether you should or shouldn't need to - just go ahead and cry.
I hope that your dad decides to let you stay with us. Whatever happens, though, just remember that we love you, Chad, and we'll always be here for you.
*HUGS*
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Chad, dear, if you get
Chad, dear, if you get blocked, I'll leave a journal explaining so. I won't let you just disappear. But truly, everyone will miss you D: I mean, I'll get to see you at school... but you introduced me to this site. I owe you everything, man.
I'm also very, very, happy you've come out to your dad. I couldn't do that to my parents unless I had a girlfriend o.o
but, I guess they sorta know. I just am very proud of you. I know it's a hard thing to do...
Loves yah, buddy :) You can always cry on my shoulder if you like. It's sorta soft too X3
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There isn't a sharp line dividing humans from the rest of the animal kingdom. It's a very wuzzie line...and it's getting wuzzier all the time. - Jane Goodall.
Suggestion
Have you dad read some of the things here on Oasis and see that its here to talk out common problems, to work together on homework. To answer difficult questions for you. To help you become a better you and not some perverts site that little old men like me are out to get in your pants. Hell I cant get it up anymore so why try...LOL...But my point is that if he sees what goes on here. Reads some of the entrys by others your age and then he can see that there is no harm in this site like there could be on regular chat sites like yahoo or aim or who ever. This is a site that is here to help and not hinder. I am so glad that he is supportive of you in you coming out to him. I hope your mother is the same. That is why I am puzzled in his reaction to Oasis here. I feel he is unfamiliar with it and needs to see it and understand it first hand. I wish you luck...oh and like Jeff said...when you feel like crying...cry....why not. Its a great stress release.
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