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24 February, 2010 - 4:10am — rythmn_n_rhyme_grrl

So there's this guy at school that likes me. He knows I'm lesbian but he still likes me. He flirts with me sometimes and I'm fine with it and I kinda tease him sometimes. Now, I have absolutely no attraction to him, but I do like it when he flirts with me.

This leaves me feeling very confused as of late because he suggests that I'm bi, and the facts (that I don't discourage his flirting) seem to suggest that as well. I know I'm not attracted to him but I'm wondering why it is that I'm acting this way... Is it just the fact that I'm flattered? What do you think?

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24 February, 2010 - 4:32am — Splash
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could be...

The first (and only) time I went on a date, it was with an old friend from my ninth grade class. We crossed paths after not seeing each other for a couple of years, and he asked me out. This was literally just weeks before I started to wonder if I was gay!

Obviously, we didn't last past that one date, but no one had ever asked me out before and I was definitely flattered. Enough to get mixed up and say yes. Love comes in a thousand shades anyway (romantic, family, friend, etc.); it can be hard to tell which is which, no?

Anyway, you're not the only person this has ever happened to. :-)

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24 February, 2010 - 4:36am — Hakase
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We want to be wanted. I

We want to be wanted. I think that's all there is to it.

24 February, 2010 - 5:40am — Mandi
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flattery

this is what I'm just breaking through, I dunno what exactly causes this confusion even though we know we're not sexually/romantically attracted to this person we become attracted to the fact they are attracted to us. In fact that exactly how I spent 11+ years trying to be hetro, by letting people flatter my, and enjoying the attention and confusing that enjoyment of being flattered with attraction to the actual person. very confusing I know *hugs*

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24 February, 2010 - 6:00am — Dracofangxxx
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I agree with Hakase, it's

I agree with Hakase, it's flattering to you, and that's what you like.

It's very simple ;3
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26 February, 2010 - 3:10am — rythmn_n_rhyme_grrl
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thanks guys... You're a

thanks guys... You're a great help *hugs*