You know what I hate?
I hate it when people say "You made the choice to be gay". I did not make the "choice". I just AM. I didn't wake up one morning and say "You know what, I wanna be gay!" That's not how it works. I didn't even wake up one morning and say "Hey, I am gay". It took time and a lot of getting to know myself to really finaly be comfortable with the fact and it feels like an insult to have someone say I chose it. Do they not understand that it would be easier if I liked boys? I wouldn't have to deal with the hate and the fear and I would never feel like I had to hide who I am. Why would I chose to live that way? Who would? It's just who I am. I'm gay. I like girls. People just need to accept that.
I must say my favorite thing to say to people who ask me about my "choice" is that I chose to be gay the same day you chose to be straight. Funny thing is, no one seems to remember making that choice...
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I feel for ya
I've been having a running debate with this girl like every time I've seen her for weeks, because she still thinks it's a choice.
I'm just thinking "You think I chose to be gay just because I like the sound of the word or something?"
Sometimes I just say, "you know, there's gay penguins too. Weird, that they would CHOOSE to not procreate and pass on their genes. Weird penguins"
"I bust mine so I can kick yours" ~ design on a swimming t-shirt
THERE WAS A BOOK ABOUT
THERE WAS A BOOK ABOUT THAT
and it got banned from libraries.
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Sometimes I like to sit at night and stare at the lamppost because it's the brightest thing in my life...
silly silly penguins
silly silly penguins :)
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...and no, they didn't live happily ever after, but they would always remember those kisses as something beautiful
silly silly penguins
silly silly penguins :)
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...and no, they didn't live happily ever after, but they would always remember those kisses as something beautiful
i know dear....
ppl can be sp misunderstanding
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I don't get that, I hate
I don't get that, I hate when people try to argue with you what your feelings are, and who you are and how you are. You can't decide that stuff for other people, that's like telling someone who doesn't like asparagus that they do like it, or trying to debate with someone what their emotions are. That stuff isn't up for argument.
And then you get people saying "Well it's my opinion that it's a choice" or "Well I just feel that it's a choice". And then you want to punch them in the nose because they're only saying that because they're trying to make it impossible to argue because you can't argue what a person feels, but it's not really an opinion because it's a belief, and it's a damaging one at that. So we have every right to try to refute it because it's offensive, because it's wrong, because it's degrading (like when they say "you choose who you have sex with so it's a choice") and because they're using it as another way to justify their hate.
Okay, rant over.
ranting = good. -- ...and
ranting = good.
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...and no, they didn't live happily ever after, but they would always remember those kisses as something beautiful
yea
people don't get the that we don't have as much choice about who we like as they do.
hehe nice riku...
when ppl say that, im like, some opionenes belong in your head, and some are to be voiced. like i wouldnt tell ppl my oppiene that your a closet case that secretly wants to have your head between a (insert same gender as ofender)'s legs. but of course thats just my opinen, so surley it dosnt offend you!
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Before we get overboard...
They do have the right to have that opinion. I always try to tell myself that when I want to punch that girl in the face, and actually, it's really not her fault.
She told me she goes to church and all the priests are talking about how evil gay people are and that it is a vile choice that violates God's will.
But it's still hard for me, just that she has that opinion and is unwilling to compromise, and that she's arguing over what MY life and feelings are like, so I get really mad, which I don't like.
I try not to get angry that often.
So I try to tell myself that she is allowed to have alternate opinions to myself, even when I know it's fact, it's really not her fault. It's the priests that put those ideas in her head.
Straight people do NOT understand us.
"I bust mine so I can kick yours" ~ design on a swimming t-shirt
I agree with most of what
I agree with most of what you said, but I do have some very supportive straight friends in my life. My best friend, for example. She's stood by me through everything, even though she likes penis.
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...and no, they didn't live happily ever after, but they would always remember those kisses as something beautiful
It's sort of like...
In truth, I cannot put myself into the shoes of a lesbian.
I am unable.
You probably feel the same of me.
"I bust mine so I can kick yours" ~ design on a swimming t-shirt
But when people say that
But when people say that being gay is a choice is their opinion it's like saying "In my opinion this fact is true" which is bullocks.
It's like saying "Well in my opinion the earth is flat" or "in my opinion the moon is square" or "in my opinion your toes are green". Those are qualitative statements, (which are obviously false, in most cases... No offense to anyone with green toes or a square moon.) and saying that it is your opinion does not make it suddenly cease to be a qualitative statement. It is an opinion to dislike something, people have a right to that, whatever. I don't care if people dislike me. What bugs me is when they try to justify it with 'facts' and then start calling them 'opinions' in order to attempt to make it impossible to argue; because it's wrong to deny someone of their opinion. But if I tried to say "In my opinion, you chose to be [insert race here]." for example, it wouldn't fly. I mean, race is something obviously hereditary, but that's not the point of the example; putting "In my opinion," in front of something doesn't necessarily make it suddenly ok with me or less offensive. :/
:O How dare you say my toes
:O
How dare you say my toes couldn't possibly be green!!
:OOO
I agree with everything else though... saying being gay (or trans, while we're at it) is a choice is just crap... yeah, I like feeling like punching the wall everytime I try to wear something that ends up making my hips look female. Definitely a choice. ><
Oh yeah, and obviously I looovvveee having a way smaller selection of people to date because not nearly as many guys want to date guys. Exactly what a romantic like me wants... mmmmmhm.
*eye-roll*
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i agree...
With almost everything said on here. My best friend is also straight and supports me through everything. She even had a dream about me saying I was gonna date one of our friends lastnight. That was a good laugh this morning. But yeah, idk. People can be stupid when they dislike something...
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