The Deed is Done
So I am officially out to my parents. I'm not really sure what this means, though.
I ended up just sitting down and telling them flat out.
That had to be one of the strangest coming outs ever. There was no freaking out, hardly any questions, and none of the cliche "I'll support you" or "I still love you". We just kind of sat down and discussed it like we would any other political issue. It was weird, and I've no clue what to make of it. But this is expected. In my family, it is not standard to show your emotions freely. If my parents do freak out, it's never public, and it is never over anything important.
I would really, really like to thank all of you guys, especially elph, who was inexplicably and wonderfully supportive, and jeff, for trying to talk some much needed sense into me. Really thanks to all of you who left nice comments. It does help.
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Congrats I guess. "This is
Congrats I guess.
"This is what I thought, I thought you need me, This is what I thought so think me naïve, I promise you a heart you'd promise to keep, Kiss my eyes and lay me to sleep." Prelude 12/21 - AFI
Frankly,
the "I support you"s really bug me.
My swim coach had to pull me aside and tell me that one day after my ex-gf outed me to the whole team, and I smiled and thanked her, but inside I was just thinking "if you support me, show it through your ACTIONS, why can't you just dismiss it, and NOT make a big deal over it?"
"The sole right of a human being is the right to do whatever you damn well please. Their sole duty is to take responsibility for their actions" ~ P.J. O'Rourke
Yeh..I know the feeling
But sometimes one feels compelled to express empathy, albeit awkwardly.
Welcome back; your smiling face and good humor were missed :-)
Which is why
I'm very polite about it, as I understand their intentions are good.
"The sole right of a human being is the right to do whatever you damn well please. Their sole duty is to take responsibility for their actions" ~ P.J. O'Rourke
i'm happy for you. :) my
i'm happy for you. :)
my coming out to my mom was also rather weird. she was like, yeah, i know. then we sort of talked about guys, which was kinda weird, because my mom and i aren't really close, but we got closer after that.
i hope that everything gets good with your parents. :D
Congrats! I totally forget
Congrats! I totally forget what coming out as bi was liek with my mum... I don't think she reacted at all, actually...
Trans was harder... but that's also a completely different thing..
"Assets, assets..."
"Well I've got a banana, and in a pinch you could put up some shelves..."
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No problem...
The strangest coming out is always your own.
All it means is you aren't lying to people who love you, and when you have questions, need to vent, etc., you can include them.
And when you don't want to, then you have all of the people here.
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Congrats. :) Yeah, it's
Congrats. :) Yeah, it's always weird when you come out to people and there isn't much of a reaction.
Can you imagine coming out to someone as trans and not getting much of reaction? It's -so weird-. It's like "by the way I'm a boy" "Oh. okay." and that's it. I actually hate that, I wish people would ask questions because then they assume things and a lot of the time they're wrong.
But anyway. Coming out to the 'rents is a big step, so I'm happy for you. :)
yeah all of my comings-out
yeah all of my comings-out have been strange. like, everyone's like, "okay, that's cool. whatever." i'm just waiting for somebody to not be okay with it, you know? congrats on a big first step though!
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Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!