the breakup
And so we broke up. She still has feelings for her ex girlfriend that she hasn't resolved. She lied about them while we were together because she thought she would get over them. It has been the underlying problem of our entire relationship. It explains her behaviour on so many occassions.
As painful as this is right now, I also know that it is for the best. I was starting to resent her for things which, I suppose she couldn't control. She was in a relationship her heart wasn't in, and privatly trying to get over the woman who had broken her heart first. We were doomed from the outset, but I still wouldn't take a minute of what we had back when we were happy.
Right now I don't know how to move foward. I want to stay friends. I care about her deeply and would like to get back to when I didn't act like an asshole towards her because I was resenting her for still loving her ex girlfriend. Is it possible to stay friends? Or is that just crazy? Has anybody any advice from outside this situation?
I wish I had of known her first.
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Oh, are you alright? You're
Oh, are you alright?
You're being very rational. You don't have to be. Or at least, you can be a bit furious and then rational.
I know lots of people who are friend with their exes- just not normally right away.
I feel like I just want to
I feel like I just want to cry and cry and cry, and I have for a while today to be honest. I'm not sure why I'm being so rational about it. I think I've been furious a lot lately because of so many uncomfortable and upsetting situations with her ex in the last while. I was turning into someone I didn't like very much when I was with her I think.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent-Eleanor Roosevelt
Oh darling- the internet is
Oh darling- the internet is so inadequate for this sort of thing. All the best. It sounds like an impossible situation.
Thanks lol-taire. I guess it
Thanks lol-taire. I guess it was.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent-Eleanor Roosevelt
apologies
so sorry to hear. my condolences. :(
i do believe, if you want to be friends with her, you can be. but i also believe that it's very important to give it time before that happens.
and hun, don't be afraid to vent.
Hm... I managed to be
Hm... I managed to be freinds with my ex. The difference was, not only did we promise that we would keep talking after we broke up, but it wasn't either of us that broke us up. It was her mum.
Now she's one of my best friends. I guess it just depends on the people.. *shrugs*
If you wanna stay friends then go ahead... just don't cause yoruself unnecessary pain. ^^
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