
I saw the Lovely Bones tonight, great by the way, with a friend of mine. We've known each other for years from church, but we haven't really been close friends, except when we were younger. We've hung out a few times this year and I think we're becoming good friends. Anyway we hung out and talked awhile after the movie and got onto the subject of her high school and then her GSA club. The club kinda dropped off in activity and has been abandoned, which she thought sucked.
Then I asked what the gay to straight ratio was in the club, and she said 1 straight person out of 11 club members. So I joked, 'Oh, you're the only straight one?' She paused and said she put herself down as questioning, which I was NOT expecting, I thought she was just a straight ally. So a few minutes later I interrupted her mid-sentence as we approached her mom waiting in the car (I couldn't drive us because I haven't been driving 6 months yet) and
I said, '---...I am too.'
'What?'
'You know!...now not a word!'
And we got into the car. She still didn't get it, so I wrote it a notepad I keep in my purse, and she said 'Ohhhh. I got it now.' Then we talked some more at my house while my dad talked to her mom.
And now...I'm surprised I said anything. I wasn't planning on it, but after she said she was Questioning, well it felt instinctive. It was kinda freeing, and nice to know that I knew someone in a similar situation. I say I kinda came out because I just wrote questioning, which is kinda true, because I'm questioning whether I'm just bi or gay, so whatever.
Sorry for the long explanation, I'm kinda a stickler for detail. I feel a little buzzed, which is probably from drinking pepsi with real sugar late at night. :) So...does this mean I'm in the 'I came out to somebody club'? Or the 'I'm not in denial and not completely hiding anymore club'? Lol, night everybody.
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That...
sounds like coming out to me. Not sure where the kinda enters the picture.
I liked Roger Ebert's review of Lovely Bones. He was not a fan. At all. He has some good points:
"It's based on the best-seller by Alice Sebold that everybody seemed to be reading a couple of years ago. I hope it's not faithful to the book; if it is, millions of Americans are scary. The murder of a young person is a tragedy, the murderer is a monster, and making the victim a sweet, poetic narrator is creepy. This movie sells the philosophy that even evil things are God's will, and their victims are happier now. Isn't it nice to think so. I think it's best if they don't happen at all. But if they do, why pretend they don't hurt? Those girls are dead."
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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain
Well
yeah it was. I just meant because I didn't say bi, but questioning, partly because it seemed safer and partly because I'm unsure as to whether I fall under bi or lesbian. I get what you mean though, I really did come out to her.
:P you called her Louelle in
:P you called her Louelle in one paragraph and Amy in the next
ooops
Oh yeah, I just realized that. I was trying to be vague and show anonymity (spelling?) I see that it was pointless now, oh well.
Oh,
Well, I think you are definitely in the club now. In my opinion, it all gets easier from there. Seriously, this is really cool.
As for the Lovely Bones, I can understand the criticisms, but at the same time I think it showed a pretty good example of moving on. I've only read the book, but, if any case of lying is ok, it is this type. Sure, it is a little optimistic to think that heaven is real, and I don't completely agree with that myself. But it seems like a family in that position would have to think like that to remain sane.
Of course, I've been lucky enough to never have anything like that happen, so what do I know...
Uhh...
It's not that they imagine she's up in heaven looking down on them, though. The whole book is narrated by her FROM heaven, so it's not a belief in the afterlife, but a story told from the afterlife, and her looking "down" on everyone from "above."
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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain
Good,
it's a tough club to join. =) You're right, it is cool. Thanks.
Congrats! That's a big step
Congrats! That's a big step and can be very hard. I'm glad you have found someone who you can be open with in person, who you also have a personal connection with and who is your age. YAY!
:)
:) Thanks. I almost didn't do it. There was this moment of perpetual indecision, like right between inhaling and exhaling, but forgetting to breathe partly and then gasping once I decided. But I did, so yeah...yay!