Gaydar?
anyone know if "Gaydar" actualy works cause if so i want a refund cause mine faulty. i was going to ask a guy out (i know big move) but then when i start talking with him he says he has news and asked if he could go first. so i let him cause he was excited. then he says that hes going out with one of our best friends and "she" was coming over to his house later on. then he asks my news, god did i feel dumb! i said this word for word, "I...I forgot. um good for you and _ ." Then i smiled and said i had an essay due and left.
back to gaydar, anyone have signs that a guy is gay? cause i need as much help as i can get! lol
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Well...
I had to turn my gaydar off living in the gay ghetto in San Francisco. Was giving me a headache...
Gaydar or not, I would recommend you ask *gay* guys out on a date. Just like I think you should come out to someone way before telling them you're interested in them, the same goes in this situation. You should know people are gay before you ask them to be gay with you. ;-)
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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain
hmmmm
well first a little im gay would help, cause if hes straight, hes more likly to react badly if you go straight to go out with me, when normally he would have time to cool down and accept your gayness >.,<
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by ask out, i mean i would of told him im gay before i asked. cause im not like dumb in that way. ive known him for awhile too, so i kinda think he has already guessed that im gay.
Separate occurences...
He should know you're gay way before you consider asking him out. Andm if he's gay and into you, when you come out to him, he may immediately come out to you anyway...
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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain
Gaydars do work. Mine's
Gaydars do work. Mine's broken, really broken. Luckily my best friend has an A-grade gaydar (she can even tell gay apart from bi apart from bicurious apart from guys willing to mess around with another guy just once), so I borrow it pretty often.
All the signs I know so far are:
-Facebook is not trustworthy, people lies (not much of a sign)
-Lots of girl friends (not exactly functional, but it covers a fair amount of gay guys)
-Guys actually telling you they're gay.
-Guys caught in pictures. Several times.
" . . . The sun does not shine upon this fair earth to meet frowning eyes, depend upon it." Charles Dickens
they...don't work D: I'm
they...don't work D: I'm sorry
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Sometimes I like to sit at night and stare at the lamppost because it's the brightest thing in my life...
Hmmmmmm...
Would you have guessed at my gayness had I not came out to you?
"I bust mine so I can kick yours" ~ design on a swimming t-shirt
Hmmmmmm X 2...
...well, you certainly gave us more than a glimpse of many other characteristics that define you. But... as for your not being gay... I don't think you provided us with even the slightest hint to that possibility :-)
I don't believe in gaydar.
I don't believe in gaydar. I'm sorry, but there's just no way to tell if someone is gay or not unless they a.) are wearing an "I'M GAY" t-shirt with a huge rainbow on it, b.) are expressing extremely obvious interest in another guy (or in the case of a lesbian, girl) or c.) you ask.
Depending on the type of guy you're attracted to, you could rely on stereotypes, but those are often misleading too. I know a guy who exhibits many gay stereotypes, but he is actually the straightest person I have ever met.
I dunno, maybe it's because I seem to lack a gaydar and can only tell if someone is practically drooling over someone of their same gender. Or maybe it's because I seem to have destroyed the gaydar of everyone I know, with the apparent exception of my aunt's, and even people who probably know I'm a lesbian still are convinced I'm straight. I just don't think you can glance at someone and automatically know, "OMG WHAT A FLAMING HOMOSEXUAL!"
...I'm sure this comment had a point. I just don't know where it went. I'm sorry if I'm not helping. XD
But really, your best bet would be to, of course, come out to the guy. See how he reacts. Maybe he'll tell you he's gay too, if he is.
Hmm...
I think gaydar is way more subtle than this.
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