A friend in need

swimmerguy's picture

As Shelby is here, I shall refrain from ever refering to this person as anything, as he told me to tell no one. And Shelby, if you figure it out, tell NOBODY!!!

On the bus, a guy told me he needed to talk. We went to the back, and then he said that he thought he was either gay or bi. He knew he'd always been bi, but he said he didn't know that it was THIS gay. He was freaking out about this.
It was hard on him. He was crying, and could barely talk. He kept saying how much it sucked, and had the Why Me? attitude.
He asked me how I had dealt with it.

So I explained that I was in denial for years, first thinking I was straight, then bi, then when it FINALLY sunk in I was gay, I was hit hard. I was angry that this had to be me, and I had to deal with this. I got depressed for a few days.
But then, I figured out this inward anger and depression accomplished nothing, and I had to take pride in myself, otherwise I would waste who I was. (Jeff's signature) So, while there are sometimes I still wish I was straight, I am now glad I turned out gay. I love it.

But I thought that he had to think this out himself. So I gave him online resources, (including here) and told him to talk to me if he needed to. Did I do the right thing, and if I didn't, should I now?

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jeff's picture

Aww...

Sounds like you were supportive, opened up to him, pointed him in the right direction, and he knows he has a supportive friend in you... can't find any flaws here.

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"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt Cobain

ferrets's picture

you did a buetiful thing :)

you will be a strong pillar for him to look up to. when he sees you happy and leading a normal life, he will revel, and hopfully throw off this intense mixed emoition feeling. he will always feel safe coming to you for advice and council :)

Half a league half a league,
Half a league onward,
All in the valley of Death
Rode the six hundred:
'Forward, the Light Brigade!
Charge for the guns' he said:
Into the valley of Death
Rode the six hundred.

'Forward, the Light Brigade!'

Uncertain's picture

Good on you Chad! He's very

Good on you Chad! He's very lucky you can be there for him

We'll be expecting him and swarming him with virtual hugs lol

patnelsonchilds's picture

I'm very, very proud of

I'm very, very proud of you.

Hugs,
Pat
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- Pat Nelson Childs
"bringing strong gay & lesbian characters to Sci-Fi & Fantasy"

elph's picture

Chad...

...I would have been very disappointed if you had behaved otherwise. My eyes are a bit damp at the moment...

TotalGeek42's picture

That's great man. You

That's great man. You definitely shouldn't have said or done anything else... er.. not that I can think of. ^^

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Wolfcry's picture

Well while they all swarm

Well while they all swarm with hugs, do you think I should get out my Batchopper and drop a hook to help him escape the swarm? or should I give my special brand of welcome(idk if you have seen this yet, and I mean when I'm in a GOOD mood)?

"Oh what tangled webs we weave, When we practice to deceive. I know you well, Actions and motives. Bear the cross, wear the crown, it's just some evil you can't bleed out. Hell has to notice, Your actions and motives." 10 Years, Actions And Motives