Am I Ready For A Label

ElvenKnight's picture

Ok, so i know that at this point that branding myself with a label is inappropriate but I've been putting things in perspective and this is what I've realised. I've had strong emotional attachments to men, yes, and I've also had strong emotional attachments to women. I can and have felt romantic feelings for guys but at this point I cannot say that men do anything for me sexually. Sure I've done "things" with other guys. Things which felt good physically but emotionally left me feeling empty. I guess thats what i deserved for getting involved in these semi- arbitrary encounters... Ugh. I started losing sight of the point here...

Am I Interested in guys. Yes, and Not Really.

I'm interested in men, but only as far really as a romantic friendship.

Women? Well there just feels like there more happening there.

To me these seem like fair assesments to base a label on.

Gay is accurate but only to a degree.
Bisexual is too vauge,
Straight feels like a fib.

Heteroflexible?

Comments

elph's picture

Enough Vacillating & Indecisiveness!

Do you have erotic dreams without female involvement? Have you ever wished that you could share a never ending mutual embrace with another male that expressed 100% affection.

If you cannot answer "yes" to both... I suspect that you're not gay. But possibly just an orgasm addict (not to be taken as a criticism). Then, back to the drawing table :)

jeff's picture

Yes...

Your label is "Questioning."

A temporary one, but appropriate. ;-)
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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis

Wolfcry's picture

Or it could be

Or it could be metrosexual...

Listen to the howling winds of your heart, and if the beat moves you, dance. "I wanna heal, I wanna feel, what I thought was never real!"

Nanook's picture

Why do you need to label

Why do you need to label your sexuality? You seem capable of self-comprehension, so aren't you secure enough in yourself to leave it at that? I mean, labels are only social construct, even in the most liberal of instances. Just be content in knowing who you truly are.

swimmerguy's picture

Hear hear!

"I bust mine so I can kick yours" ~ design on a swimming t-shirt

ElvenKnight's picture

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i get pleasure and satisfaction from being with other guys., there are no doubts about that. What I find myself wondering is, will that be enough?
Is a romantic friendship with another man enough?

I think it could be, but I haven't quite experienced it in such a way that I could say for certain.

"The greenbeans are excellent, pass said greenbeans"

Wolfcry's picture

my god I just realized...

my god I just realized... you sound like me, only I can't stand women except as friends...

Listen to the howling winds of your heart, and if the beat moves you, dance. "I wanna heal, I wanna feel, what I thought was never real!"