this tis distressing. have you suggested to her she sees someone for mental help?

love is when you think about them twice for every other thought...or is that obsession? is there a differnce beetween those two things?

well i was abused sexualy from when i was 4-11
its a hard thing to get past
i am ashamed to admit i used to cut as your friend does not to kill myself but because for the slip second when there is no blood just a clean cut i felft calm and safe.
i havent cut in 2 years now
i miss it
not because im still depressed but because it was just a nice thing back then.

if this the first intament relationship she has had i would hope she has told her partner.
its imposible for her not to get hurt if she hasnt.
for a long time i could not even touch someone (like on the hand ect) let alone feel compelled to have something as tarrifying as a kiss or even a hug.
it is normal for her to get upset when she thinks about trying things or doing them.
it happens to most people that have delt with this.
it can often bring back memories/flash backs.

things will get better for your friend.
for me it helps to think that im alive today and every great person has had a past full of sarrow, so one day i will be great because i didnt give up.

the best way to help your friend quit cutting is to let her know that you will always be there when she cuts and when she doesnt
what evey you do dont get angry about it
she feels ashamed as it is she wants you to show you care but that you dont jugde her actions
let her know that it makes you sad but does not disapoint you.

also dont ask questions about it
let her tell you if she wants to otherwise it hurts more to talk about it

lastly i agree with ferrets
she needs a therapist
it helped more than anything else for me

you can message me with questions about this or problems like this when ever
id be glad to help anytime

there are some books you and your friend should read such as
Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child by Laura Davis

How Long Does It Hurt: A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families by Cynthia L. Mather, Judy Wood, Eliana Gil, and Kristina E. Debye
and
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (Revised Edition) by Wendy Maltz
these are all good books to read when this is a part of your life.

"There was never any good old days
They are today, they are tomorrow
It's a stupid thing we say
Cursing tomorrow with sorrow"
-Gogol Bordello