HAIII :) <3 i'm new. // bisexuality? fake bisexuals? questions? :)

1 August, 2009 - 7:20am — bleepbleepflashbleep

hey :)

i've sort of been stalking this site for a bit, and decided to make myself a journal. :D
soo i suppose i'll write a bit about myself :)
my name is tristan, i'm sixteen and i'm bisexual, mostly into guys. i identify mostly as male. i'm canadian and i have huge curly hair :)
I'm a really cheerful person, always super happy and hyper :D I love talking to new people.
The reason I made this journal thing is that.. i don't really know anyone lgbt, or any who are out anyways. and i'd love to talk to more people like me! :):):)

So I suppose i should add some content to this journal, and share my current emotions towards my sexual orientation
I just really wanted to let some stuff out about being bisexual. I just find it really hard to be in relationships. If I find myself attracted to someone of the same gender while in a ''straight'' relationship, or vice-versa (though i've never been with a guy...) i'll feel guilty, because i'm supposed to be attracted to this one person, right? even if it's just walking down the street and seeing someone attractive. Then also, seeing as i've never been with another guy, I have a problem being in serious relationships with girls because i've never known what it's like with guys, and i don't want to miss opportunities or wtvr. so even though i'm mostly okay with my sexuality and i'm out and everything, sometimes i wish i was just straight or gay. i'm also afraid of my sexuality not being taken seriously, as though i was saying i was bi because it would be more accepted amongst straight people, or to be ''cool'' (see following paragraph)

yeah, cool like those fake bisexuals yeah, you know. bicuriousity/bisexuality is considered ''cool'' now because of people being more accepting/pop culture/wtvr., and it sort of bothers me. i mean, it's great that gay/lesbian relations are more and more accepted... but if you're faking it just to be cool then you've sort of lost my respect. it just bothers me.
< /whining > (promise never to be this whiny, i just had to get it off my chest :D)

so anyways you guys,
have you ever wished you were of another sexual orientation? do you know any fake bisexuals? what do you think of the whole issue?

hah, this is sort of like a first day at a new school, i hope you guys will like me :3

tristan <3

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1 August, 2009 - 7:26am — Tophat

Hallo, Tristan, friend! I'm

Hallo, Tristan, friend!

I'm Tophat, AKA wantsout, AKA, Igor (For a VERY short period).

I hope you enjoy Oasis. I've been here a few years, and it still makes me insane. I've tried to leave a few times, but it's like a stinkin' vortex.

Hahahahaha! No, it's really a positive place. Enjoy thine stay.

**Hugs** love to you and your friends!

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1 August, 2009 - 7:46am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thanks for the welcome :)

thanks for the welcome :) :)
*hugs back* :D
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1 August, 2009 - 7:32am — 5thstory

Hello and welcome to Oasis,

Hello and welcome to Oasis, Tristan.

This is the right place, I think, to get to know almost every single kind of person there is. I'm sure you'll find someone to talk to, and lots of answers to your posts... you might even get a great piece of advice.

Well, that's pretty much it all. Enjoy Oasis.

(Wait. Fake bisexuals make me mad as hell. First off, they confuse my rather poor gaydar, and then they give this confusing mixed signals. Being confused is OK, but knowing you're not bi and acting bi... not cool).

" . . . The sun does not shine upon this fair earth to meet frowning eyes, depend upon it." Charles Dickens

1 August, 2009 - 7:45am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thanks for the welcome, and

thanks for the welcome,
and glad someone feels the same about the fake bisexual issue. aha :)
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1 August, 2009 - 7:40am — ferrets

HELLO!

my greeting is the most important because im the ferret pope!do you like ferrets?so anyhow welcome, welcome. ive often cried into my pillow wishing i wasnt gay....your not alone bud, hope you love oasis, because we will love you(we have a wierd family thing going

love is when you think about them twice for every other thought...or is that obsession? is there a differnce beetween those two things?

1 August, 2009 - 7:43am — bleepbleepflashbleep

yeah, i like ferrets.

i like everything soft and cuddly. exept cats because i'm allergic to them. DDD: they make me all red and scratchy and stuffy! :(
in fact today i dragged my friend into the petstore and we saw ferrets :)
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1 August, 2009 - 1:46pm — elph

Bisexuality: Definition Extremely Fluid

Welcome to Oasis...

The most rigid definition of bisexual orientation is when one vacillates between the sexes toward which one is innately attracted --- but not both at the same time!

Is there a simple test that would help one decide between gay/straight? I think a hint may be found when you embrace your pillow at night. Is it standing in for someone of the same sex or not?

At this time I think you should not push yourself to declare an orientation: Friendships (irrespective of your or their orientation) are the most important.

Until you feel more assured of your orientation, you may have to rely on your personal ingenuity to soothe any hormonal-inspired angst...

1 August, 2009 - 3:32pm — tenmilestilts

"I think you'll find that

"I think you'll find that more often than not bisexuality is a self-imposed label"...you say that like nobody's *actually* bisexual, like they're either pretending or not sure or whatever. and why not both at the same time? isn't that what bi means? "two"--both? when a straight *or* gay person is in a bar, do they only check out one person? no, and with bisexuals the multiple people just happen to be of multiple genders.
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2 August, 2009 - 7:26am — bleepbleepflashbleep

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hm, i have a few things to say on this... i kind of disagree /:

I think you'll find that more often than not bisexuality is a self-imposed label that is employed to announce: (1) I don't truly know or (2) I wish to keep my orientation private, at least for the present.
-- i really am attracted to both guys and girls. i mean, it varies on my mood obviously but it's just the way I am.

The most rigid definition of bisexual orientation is when one vacillates between the sexes toward which one is innately attracted --- but not both at the same time!
-- i've been in relationships with girls, felt attracted to them, yet if i see a hot guy i'll be attracted to him too.

Is there a simple test that would help one decide between gay/straight? I think a hint may be found when you embrace your pillow at night. Is it standing in for someone of the same sex or not?

At this time I think you should not push yourself to declare an orientation: Friendships (irrespective of your or their orientation) are the most important.
-- as i said in my post i'm comfortable with my orientation ; i don't need to choose. imo, sexual orientation is something you're born with, it isn't a choice. though i totally agree : having really close friends is something i'm blessed with and will always appreciate.

just my two cents.
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2 August, 2009 - 8:01am — Tophat

Hmmmm...

Hmmm... I, actually, am bisexual, meaning that I am sexually attracted to both genders. However, I label myself as gay because

A.) I have no desire to be with a woman

B.) It's a hell of a lot easier to explain

and C.) I'm more comfortable being labeled as gay.

The only thing that I can say at this point is: What's in a name? A rose by any other name would still smell as sweetly.

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2 August, 2009 - 7:41pm — lamb_da

R&J!

ah yes...i do rather like that quote...i'm the same as you...bi but rather say i'm gay/queer/lesbian because i feel more attrated to girls...i'd be fine with a guy i suppose...>.> maybe...lol

the world should be a box of lucky charms. gays and christians stuck together on a hot summer's day :)

1 August, 2009 - 2:05pm — Riku

Yay! I love cheery people.

Yay! I love cheery people. :) Welcome to Oasis. This place is strangely addicting.

I've never had a major issue with my sexuality, besides the fact that I couldn't figure out what it was for the longest time. XD; I hope you sort out what's bugging you.

And, people who say they're bi but know that they aren't are just -not cool-. I don't know anyone like that though. (Thank goodness.)

2 August, 2009 - 7:27am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thanks for the welcome :)

i had a hard time too at first. i was pretty confused. :P
thank you for the welcome again :):)
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1 August, 2009 - 2:37pm — carmen143

Welcome!!! Glad you could

Welcome!!! Glad you could join on this wonderful site. I'm pretty sure veryone will grow to love you here. Just a hunch. :)
<3 FLAME ON! <3

2 August, 2009 - 7:28am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thank youuu for the welcome :):)

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1 August, 2009 - 3:55pm — lamb_da

hai thar!

and welcome! *huggles*

posers....bad bad bad bad bad....bad...>.>
i agree with 5thstory completely...my gaydar is almost nonexistant...
so fakers will give me hell...my hopes always go too high or too low anyways...
for a while i thought i was bi until i realized that i really perefer girls more...and i identify myself as both bi and lez...i don't know if that's a good thing of not...but i know i really really prefer girls but i wouldn't mind boys either...if i ever get an option...but really...girls are my preference ;)

sorry bout that....>.>

oh and i wish i could help you out on that relationship stuff but being one of those few left that are still a virgin to that world....i don't think i can help much...>< sorry
but i'll give you more huggles and huggles when you need them! *huggles*

the world should be a box of lucky charms. gays and christians stuck together on a hot summer's day :)

2 August, 2009 - 7:30am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thank you for the welcomeee

*huggles back* and there's always moar hugs when you need some. :)
and i think i sort of get what you mean, it's like you're into girls but if the right guy comes around, you won't complain.
or i might be totally wrong. idk. :)
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2 August, 2009 - 7:43pm — lamb_da

haha

yeah...you're about right...but what i mean is if a guy asked me out i wouldn't mind, i'd just tell him get ready for me to break up with you soon if i feel like i like someone else...you know> anyway...*huggle*
on the asking of the out part...never happened so...i've got no worries!

the world should be a box of lucky charms. gays and christians stuck together on a hot summer's day :)

1 August, 2009 - 5:24pm — RegretShouldntExist

Hehe i luv ur username XD

Hehe i luv ur username XD bleepppppp...hehe OK ANYWAYSSSSSSSSSS yea...posers r NOT cool in the least...believe me i live with a whole helluva lot!! not for sexual orientation...but...for labels like skater goth ect....Im the only gay in my school so...meh...sometimes i wished i was straight so it would b easier...but i know now im not changing and...welll...if people dont like me then i tell them to shove it xD Ohhhh i love ur REAL name too :) hehe Triiiiiiiiistan hehe oh..irght back to the thingy!!!!! DONT APOLOGIZE FOR BEING WHINY IM WHINY ALL THE TIME :D

2 August, 2009 - 7:32am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thanks for the welcome loveeeeee :)

i'm the only non-straight person in my school, all the boys avoid me like the plague! all my friends are girls :3
i like my name too, it's very androgynous. :D
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1 August, 2009 - 5:48pm — Merric

welcome

Do you know the song "Tristan" by Patrick Wolf(who is bi, by the way)? It's kind of weird and intense and I love it.

I don't know any fake bisexuals. Where I live, it's not cool to be bi. Or gay. Or trans. Or anything "weird." : (

2 August, 2009 - 7:35am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thank you for the welcome :)

i'm listening to the song right now. it's unusual but i like it very much :3
i'm from montreal so theres a huge gay community... however i go to sheltered catholic school, where i'm the only non-straight person (who's out anyways :P)
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1 August, 2009 - 6:02pm — stillgotlegs

I know completely about the

I know completely about the fake bisexuality thing.

About half of my year are saying they're bisexual... but as soon as I say I'm a lesbian, it's all gross. Somehow, where I live, bisexuality is cool and fun and acceptable but lesbians, they're COMPLETELY immoral. It's stupid...

It'd be easier to come out as bi, and just have grilfriends, but part of the point of coming out is not having to pretend to be something you're not. So when I eventually come out, it'll be as a lesbian... providing I haven't changed my mind but that time!

Anyways, Welcome to Oasis and all that jazz. We're a friendly bunch, PM anytime if you want to talk about junk :)

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2 August, 2009 - 7:38am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thank you for the welcome <3

i totally agree about the coming out issues... i mean coming out was for me a sort of very liberating experience. it shouldn't be just more lies.
thanks again :)
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1 August, 2009 - 6:11pm — TotalGeek42

Heyyo

Haha, I'm new too. Yayyy, new people! :D

In any case, lol, hm, I don't know any fake bisexuals, actually. It's kidn of interesting, cuz you'd think there would be more where I live. I do know of one fake straight person though... he said he was bi and had a boyfriend and everything and man you should have seen them together... anyways he 'changed his mind' about being bi about a month later, and there's no way he wasn't bi with the way he acted towards this other guy... and I don't mean loving, I mean always begging for anything sexual. Mm, not to mention he cheated on somebody or another with his brother...

Iinnn any case, as for wishing you were another sexuality.. I know sometimes it would be easier to be one or the other, but true bisexuality is kinda cool. You don't have to be picky, yaknow? ;)

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2 August, 2009 - 7:41am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thanks for the welcome :D

well, for that fake straight guy you know, it is possible that he just liked that one guy, or was confused, or just curious.

and about true bisexuality, i was talking about it with a friend today, and he was like : but this way, you get to have ANYONE!
yay for newbiesss :)
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1 August, 2009 - 8:23pm — in rainbows

welcome to oasis....for like

welcome to oasis....for like the 16th time lol
ive wished i wasnt a muff muncher before like alot.
and yes i know a couple of fake bisexuals, the reason i know them is because,sadly, i had relationships with them lol XDDD
:) anyways um i hope you enjoy oasis :)))

"he who laughs last didnt get it, but he who laughs first has the dirtiest mind."

2 August, 2009 - 7:41am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thanks for the welcome <3

:D:D
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1 August, 2009 - 9:07pm — Super Duck

Welcome to Oasis! I know a

Welcome to Oasis!

I know a fake bisexual. She said one day that she had just wanted the attention... which is really sad, if you think about it. :( She even had an imaginary girlfriend that "went to another school." Now, she freaks out if you even mention it. But part of me believes that maybe she wasn't fake. I mean, she's totally the type of person who would fake, but she may have just decided to go back into the closet because so many people treated her badly. Not to mention, last year she was SUPER obsessed with the girl I have a crush on. >_>

2 August, 2009 - 7:44am — bleepbleepflashbleep

thanks for the welcome :D

people who do stuff for attention are stupid.
although, it is possible that she wanted to ''test'' people's reactions before coming out with the whole ''girlfriend'' thing.
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2 August, 2009 - 7:27pm — newt

Hey! Welcome to Oasis. Yeah,

Hey! Welcome to Oasis. Yeah, like tophat said it's a freakin' vortex, but it's all good.

Have a nice time.

2 August, 2009 - 9:35pm — bleepbleepflashbleep

thanks :)

<3
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2 August, 2009 - 11:07pm — Peregrine

I'm that boy your mother

I'm that boy your mother warns you about, but alas I am taken... oh well. If you ever wanna just rant and get a sacrcastic-with-a-slight-insight, I'm your go-to-gay! I'm easy to get in contact with, You just gotta be patient/on myspace! Welcome and hope you talk to me a bit!

"I'm not the one who's so far away, when I feel the snake bite into my Veins! Never did I wanna be here again, and I don't remember why I came."

9 August, 2009 - 5:12am — iJuiceBoxxx

I'm a bisexual girl. For a

I'm a bisexual girl. For a while I just said that I was gonna be straight because I was trying to be a christian and I didn't want to be shunned, and even though I still love God, I'm not gonna lie about who I'm attracted to. It sucks when people think that ALL bisexual people are doing it for attention, it's like the ignorant people who think that about cutters. Oh, and finding other people attractive when you're in a relationship is okay, everyone does that, as long as you don't cheat. <3