Where are all the bisexuals?
I know there are plenty of bisexual people out there, including on Oasis, but sometimes I wonder...I've been scouting the internet for blogs and magazines and all sorts of things recently, and it seems like there are very few things geared specifically towards bisexuals and our double (or more) sided nature. I encountered bimagazine.org, and remarkably little else. The top 100 LGBT blogs were actually 100 LGT blogs, not a spot of bisexuality in there. And I have been realizing the scary world of being bisexual: you can never be totally confident that someone will stay simply a friend in your eyes, your heart, (your thighs...:PPP), and there are things that simply aren't included in the gay or straight communities' blogs.
In any case, has anyone heard of some specifically bi-oriented blogs/sites/whatever else? I would appreciate them greatly! :)
-Julia
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An Excellent Question!
LGT I can understand without any difficulty! But I feel there is much ambivalence over the defining characteristics for B. Also LGT tend to be recognized as immutable; but being B seems to be a stop-over on the way to being L, G or T --- or, shockingly, even S!
I'd like to know what others think. Particularly, are there any Oasis members who feel themselves to be B (for life)?
I think this will be a very popular Forum subject...
i identify as bi, but really
i identify as bi, but really i feel more that gender simply doesn't matter in love, or sex. i could have a relationship with someone regardless of gender. so i don't really know what that is. but yeah, i've noticed that there's nothing to be found about bi, especially no movies or books with (believable) bi characters. and i like my literature... i shall definitely look at bimagazine.org, it's the first B site i've heard of. i'll post if i stumble across anything else!
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Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!
It seems that the "B" in
It seems that the "B" in GLBT is often the first to be marginalized. Used to be the "T," but at least in the academy that's no longer the case. I think it's precisely because of what elph said... bisexuality is perceived by many to be a sort of liminal category, a pit stop on the way to a more solidified identity. If you're bi, you're anathema to both the straight and gay communities. I took a GLBT literature course this past semester and there was not one book on the syllabus with a bi character, plus the professor tended to very subtly turn up her nose at bisexuality.
I don't identify as bi, but I don't really identify as anything these days, except female. I'm like bookworm3x4 in that gender just isn't a determining factor to me in love or sex. And I basically feel orientationless right now because I'm in such a long term relationship... it seems pointless to wonder if I would like boys or girls if I weren't with her.
As is probably obvious,
As is probably obvious, since I started this topic, I identify as bi. However, I totally know what ACCgirl means...I can appreciate guys and girls at this point, but I'm only attracted to E, and I can't imagine it otherwise. (Another common misconception about bi's...no, we don't need a guy and girl to be satisfied! Thank god! :-P)
I think we've all encountered that...many people seem to classify sexuality based on relationship status...if you're single, you can say you're bit, perhaps, but if you're in a relationship, people draw the obvious conclusions (it took both of us a while to realize that most of our friends thought E was lesbian...), and really, what else can you expect them to do? Maybe we should have a universal hand signal or something. ;) (Anyone read Empress of the World? ;-P)
i read empress of the world
i read empress of the world and i *totally* agree, a universal hand signal would save a lotta trouble. XD
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Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!
And of course if you're in a
And of course if you're in a relationship long enough, I guess titles seem to lose meaning. Hmm....Sounds good. Never read it, but I might just have to!
"You are what you are when no one is looking."
- Robert C. Edwards
I think plumbing is not relevent
I don't play the game anymore (I've just gotten so into my own literary world I won't share myself with 'mortal flotsam' anymore), and I have had no luck with the ladies; but what's the difference? In the past, based on lust alone; I wouldn't o' kicked the young Mark Singer or Rachel McLish outta bed, ya know?
There's a look I like, and both genders are capable of it. One just has to work a little harder to attain it.
Technically I'm bisexual
but it's an unusual circumstance when I'll date a guy (I am female). I only have deep feelings for MacGyver, though. :3 For me, gender is a player in sexual attraction but not in emotional attraction.
As for self-identification, I often find it easier to just not identify as anything but queer. (As in, not bisexual or gay, per se, just queer.)
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you can sneer or disappear behind a veneer of self control - but for all of those who don't fit in; who follow their instincts and are told they sin.... this is a prayer for a different way.
i like that. just "queer".
i like that. just "queer". that sounds like a better fit than bi. or pansexual, which isn't quite right for me.
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Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!
I like to do that too.
I like to do that too. :)
But, for situations like when one of our friends asked when my (bi) gf realized she didn't like guys, it's convenient to have the word bisexual around.
Gay man trapped in a lesbians world.
Labels are completely so 1997.
Gay Straigt. Love who you love and share with whom you want to share. Or Dont.
But whatever you do BE HAPPY. find joy and try and leave the world a better place than when you came in.
Thats what I believe. btw your very cute bookworm. Im sure you got all the people drooling.
haha, *cute pose* thanks
haha, *cute pose* thanks ^.^
...i like the philosophy, it requires no figuring stuff out.
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Two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do!