*sighs*
Is it wrong to love another that is older?...And i do not mean 1 or 2 years..i mean 5 and a half years older...I know it is a big difference but i mean i love him and he loves me....I just...idk...Hes 18 and I am 12...He turned 18 this year and im turning 13 in August...so yea like 5 and a half....Is it so wrong?
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whoa
you guys havent done the dirty have you????
"in true love the smallest distance is too great, yet the greatest distance can be broken."
NO! JEEZ! He actually forced
NO! JEEZ! He actually forced me to promise that we wouldnt do anything bad lol ...well he just kinda said that we werent allowed and yea :) didnt FORCE Me...bue yea :)
"My personal opinion is that you do not have What it takes "
-Kristen Chenoweth (Glinda)
Well...
Wrong is subjective... but it is most likely illegal for anything to happen. Even states that have a Romeo and Juliet law, it usually has to be within 2 years apart. So definitely something you need to be careful about.
Another thing to consider is your parents, and how cool they are with gay stuff, etc., even if they don't know about you.
If they find out you two are dating, AND aren't cool with things, they could have him arrested. So, yeah, a few hurdles here.
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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis
O_O THEY COULD HAVE HIM
O_O THEY COULD HAVE HIM WAT?!?!?! AARRESTED OH HELL NO I WILL EAT MY PARENTS IF THEY DO THAT! Well..they r ok with me being gay...but uh..they dont know about him....They knew about my last bf who was 16....so...idk....We wouldnt do anything like that! Just a kiss here and there :) cudddle and hugs :) nothing bad
"My personal opinion is that you do not have What it takes "
-Kristen Chenoweth (Glinda)
Maybe Not What You Really Wanted To Hear?
Frankly, I am quite envious. You're 12 and are already experiencing the pangs of love!
I wish that I could offer honest, solid advice. But I feel very much out of my league here. The best I can do is to suggest a few questions to ask yourself, and possibly, from your responses, you will figure out the best path for you.
(1) Which of you was first attracted to the other? Love (or sex?) at first sight?
(2) How did each of you learn that the other was gay? Any awkwardness?
(3) Would you be overjoyed if you could embrace and kiss without end? But no sex.
(4) Would you feel comfortable introducing him to friends your age, and tell them that he is your boyfriend?
(5) How would you feel if he were to introduce you (as his boyfriend) to his buddies? Would it matter if he appeared to be boasting?
(6) 18 suggests that he should soon be expecting to graduate high school. Do you think that he dreams of a future that includes you?
(7) When you envisage sex in the future, is his enjoyment more important to you than yours?
(8) Would you want to keep your relationship both private and secret?
(9) Would you be tempted to boast about having an 18-year-old lover?
I'm not suggesting that these questions have correct answers. But I suspect that they may help you think through the process.
1) i first liked him for his
1) i first liked him for his personality and how he always looked out for me
2) i kinda just said...well..hinted Im gay so he kinda...said..um..he kinda said would u b my boyfriend...so i said yes :)
3) All I wanna do is just be in his arms and cuddle with him :)
4) oh i would tottally brag about him xD make me friends jealous
5)Oh im great friends with his best friends so in person i wouldnt care :) we would just have fun :)
6) Well we havent really talked about his future...but he always talks about growing up with me and being together its sooo sweet :) He even said he would marry me
7) I think that we should be happy and pleasured together...not one more than the other...But i would gladly sacrifice so much for him...he even said that to me :) I kinda got teary and smiled and yea :)
8)I would only keep it secret if i had to...Like for job interviews but socially like among friends and family i would gladly scream it out lol
9)I wouldnt particularly boast...i would just be hapy and glad i have someone who loves me, no matter their age. Him being 18 has advantages and disadvantages...
So based on these answer, which have been completely and truthfully answered, what do you guys think?
Thanx Elph this was actually alt of help
Sounds Idyllic...
...and I can tell that at this moment you are truly consumed. I know the feeling --- and just remembering it brings tears to my eyes.
As for what do you guys think?... this would provide interesting reading, but ultimately this is your relationship!
Idyllic visions are extremely easy... and comforting. And I know how easily reality and time can conspire to shatter them. I have no reason to believe that this will happen to you, but you should be prepared to weather future heartbreaks... and learn from them.
You already have discerned that I'm not going to say "jump at it." This would be inexcusable; you must discover your own heart.
Enjoy the tribulations of ravaging puberty!!!
O.o....um...ok i kinda
O.o....um...ok i kinda understood that and then again not really..soooo....uhhh....OH! I GET IT! well...most of it ;) Anyways thank you Elph :)!
"My personal opinion is that you do not have What it takes "
-Kristen Chenoweth (Glinda)