I can't write much right now 'cuz I'm on my friends phone, but I wanted to tell Oasis that I told my parents that I like girls and I feel worse than before. I just feel horrible. I'll write more when I can
=( oh hon, I'm sorry things aren't going well. But don't beat yourself up. Telling your parents is obviously something you needed to do, and from the sound of things, it was hella courageous too. But more importantly, it's done, and all that's left now is to deal with the aftermath. And even knowing none of your situation, keep in mind that they may surprise you. Anyway, GOOD LUCK!!! PM if you need anything, and keep us posted.
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Graham: "Cheers make girls do stupid cartwheels. Orgasms make people feel good."
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I know what you mean. Telling my parents didn't make me feel to much better. Well, at least not when I told my mom. She ignored me when I said it and two years later she still thinks I'm doing it for attention... But everyone else was fine. Like gaynow said, that was really courageous, and be proud that you actually did it!! I hope everything works out :)
If homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in queer to work: "Hello. Can't work today, still queer."
Right now I really just need to have some support, so I'm glad for everyone on this site.
I'll probably be PMing you at some point later, but I'm at a friends house, so...
"When you can't walk you crawl, and when you can't do that you find someone to carry you" ~Firefly
What went wrong? Parents freak? You uncomfortable that they know? All of the above?
"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis
My dad was predictable. He hasn't looked/talked to me since.
My mom was the weird one. She SAID that she supported me, but I can't talk about it, support my rights, OR be around any of my girl friends... Plus, right now she's just acting... Strange.... And she believes in all the stereotypes...
I just feel a lot worse than I did before I told them, and I would do it a hell of a lot differently if I could go back in time...
But alas, I can't....
You can't really toss something like this at them, and judge their initial reactions as how things will be from now on. You had your awkward time and sorting it out, and decided you were ready, and planned in advance... and they don't get that same option. They just go from not knowing to knowing. So, this is their time to be closeted, to sort things out, and learn how to react.
So, give them space, answer their questions, and don't judge them too harshly on the nonsense that might initially come out of their mouth upon hearing this.
And, yeah, no use wondering how you might have come out better. Save that for other people on the list at this point. :-)
I guess I'm just worried, 'cuz I don't want this to ruin my relationship with my parents. They're both Catholics (not very devout Catholics, but they still fallow the religion) and I'm worried that there's still a chance that they will kick me out, or send me somewhere to 'fix' me...
That, or they're just going to go on ignoring it for the rest of their lives...
Sorry that things went that way :(
I haven't come out yet so I don't have any advice or anything but I'd say that jeff knows what he's talking about. Just give your parents some time and see how things go.
I hope things get better there and remember we're all here for you if you need us :)
Once upon a time I ripped the wings from my spine
But when I hide inside your eyes I still pretend that I can fly
im sry. things will get better. i promise. the big thing is that u came out. the big part is over with. evryone on here nos what ur going threw. Coming out is a big thing. it takes a lot of courage and strength and u hav 2 believe that u hav all those qualities. ur beautiful no matter what anyone else says. remember that.
PM me if u still need 2 chat.
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I came out much worse. I'm still waiting for my parents to kick me out. It prolly won't happen tho. Things will get better. Don't worry too much about it.
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