Oh s***.
GAH!
Today is NOT GOOD. NOTGOODNOTGOODNOTGOOD!!!
What happened:
We were all sitting around at lunch, chatting. Somehow, the topic got to me... And the 'running joke' (hahahaNOT), of me being 'lesboooo!'
My friends ended up being all, 'Are you a homosexual? Are you lesboooo?'
And... I didn't answer them. I didn't say anything. So, throughout the day, they were saying it in the same joking way... But I think they know.
AHH! Do they know what I am before I do??? I have no idea what to do. Go along with it? Tell them?
... Deny it, and lie? I don't want to have to lie to them. I hate lying, especially about something like this... But I know they'll keep bugging me until I answer.
I wish life wasn't complicated. It would make things not only an awful lot easier, but also better. If I had known from the moment I was born everything about myself... I wouldn't have to worry about these things.
Especially not in the middle of a math test (which I did, unfortunately. I think I'm going to fail.).
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I actually had a similar experience like this with one of my friends before.
She would always call me dyke jokingly and one day I asked her if she really thought I was a dyke. She said she honestly didn't know if I was or not. And then I was like.. well guess what? I am.
She was cool with it.
Maybe you could do something like that with your friends. The next time they call you lesbo or whatever, ask them if they really think you are gay.
This may sound cliche.. but if they have a problem with you not lying to yourselft and being out and proud then they aren't real friends. And shouldn't be your friends.
That sounds similar. I don't
That sounds similar. I don't think I want to tell them yet, though.
And I'm pretty sure that they don't have a problem with that. They're always joking about things, but they're pretty much okay with anything.
Thanks. :)
Yeah
It doesn't sound like they'd have a problem with it if you came out to them. And you know, if they ditch you over it, they're not real friends. But don't come out until you're ready of course. I guess you can just play along until then. Before I came out I was the master at avoiding questions. XD; (And now, I can't do it to save my life. But that's fine.)
Good luck and all.
Yeah, I guess so. I shall
Yeah, I guess so.
I shall practice the art of avoiding questions...
Person: "ARE YOU GAY???"
Me: "Hey look, a puppy!" *chases*
Thank youuuu
XD
Normally, if I don't want to answer something, I ask a question back. (Or play dumb) I think all of my friends caught onto that though, they don't let me get away with that anymore. XD;
That makes sense. ... I
That makes sense.
... I still like the ADD approach, though.
lol
If it's a joke...
For the record...I like the ADD approach too! :D However, I usually just ignore them and smile politely. I figure if they really want to know they will ask me privately. Otherwise I don't feel the need to respond! ;)
The ADD approach is the one
The ADD approach is the one that most appeals to my friends...
We're all distracted like that. :)
I agree with Gabby21, if
I agree with Gabby21, if they really want to know (which it isn't really any of their business anyway it is kind of a private matter) then why will ask you in their own private matter. I hope everything goes well.
You could tell them that you aren't sure, but I would tell them on an indivudual basis depending on who you are comfortable sharing the information with. But it is still up to you. Good luck! *hugs*
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Umm...
If people ask are you gay/lesbo, and you don't reply, I think you did answer them. Because someone straight would say some version of "No."
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Say
Say "yes".
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