So, I went to a Michael J. Fox event last night, as he's out promoting his new book and all... and it's mainly him being interviewed on stage for an hour and a half, etc., but one part sounded so similar to the journey of people here, I figured I'd share it.
A good deal of the interview dealt with his Parkinson's Disease, when he knew, how he handled it, how it changed his life, etc. But at one point, he said most people reframe the issue improperly, and look at how Parkinson's affected his life, his career, his family, how people perceived him, and on and on. When, in fact, Parkinson's is the one thing in his life that he didn't get to pick. That part is just there and isn't changing.
What he gets to decide is how to live his life from the plethora of options available, with Parkinson's as a constant in the background. You can see it as a world of restriction and loss, because of what you could potentially do without Parkinson's. Or you can say, this exists, so what else do I want to do with my life? And focusing on how to live his best life every day is the only real choice.