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24 April, 2009 - 10:39pm — queercatholic

Hey guys!

Sorry I don't get much of a chance to write on here. I just have a question though, I just met a f2m transexual and the concept of transexuality is COMPLETELY new to me. I am completely comfortable with this guy because he's just awesome but the concept of how he was born with a female body and how he underwent a sex-change surgery is confusing to me. I want to ask for your guy's input if that's alright. Here is my perception of transexuality at this point: someone is born with one gender's body but their soul is actually that of another. Just like many people dress in a fun or unconventional way because in their soul, they feel they are fun and unconventional, people who are trans have a soul that is different from that of their body so they change what is on the outside to match the inside. I'm not sure if what is confusing to me is the fact that I met this guy before he had his sex change and I'm still getting used to the fact that "she" is actually a HE. Can anyone offer me any input about this whole concept and how I might be able to get more comfortable in realizing that this person, although born a female is ACTUALLY a male?

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25 April, 2009 - 3:08am — bulldyke
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how you described it, how

how you described it, how you said their body is one thing, but their soul is another? that's exactly how i understand it (although i don't personally believe in souls). so you've got that right.

think about it this way....when you talk to someone who isn't trans, say a boy, what is it exactly that makes him a HIM? yeah, in part it's his physical body, but mostly, it's what inside. it's who HE is. it's his soul.

so when you're talking to a trans person, just think about what's on the inside. don't focus on what's between their legs, or on their chest. that's my best advice.

their physical body shouldn't be how you think of them, because it's wrong. they have the wrong bodies. which is awful, beyond awful, and the best thing you can do (or at least, the best thing my trans friends say) is to just be normal. your friend is ftm, so he's a he. there's no SHE about him...except on the outside. use male pronouns. treat him as you would any other guy. cause that's exactly what he is...a guy.

Bulldyke
to see a world in a grain of sand
and a heaven in a wild flower
hold infinity in the palm of your hand
and eternity in an hour
~William Blake

25 April, 2009 - 4:21am — Fiona Rosge
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hm

Read Luna LOL
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Come Josephine in my flying machine
Going up she goes up she goes
Balance yourself like a bird on a beam
In the air she goes there she goes
Up, up, a little bit higher
Oh, my, the moon is on fire
Good-by

25 April, 2009 - 4:45am — Riku
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You're pretty spot-on actually

And BD too.

Us trans people just want to be treated like any other guy or girl, that is, if a person identifies as male, even though his body is female, he's still a guy, just like any other guy. And to him, calling him a girl because he was born with a vagina is like saying a person isn't human because they were born with too many fingers or something.

Yeah. So he's not a girl, and he's not somehow "less than male" either. Just remember he's always been a guy, even before he came out. I get annoyed at people who will refer to me by my girl name and female pronouns when they talk about me before I came out, because I was a boy then too. It's not a switch someone makes, but I think you know that already.

Also, thanks for caring so much. I wish there were more people as understanding as you. :)