Decisions, decisions...

msquared's picture

I've been periodically checking the facebook profile of a cute and intelligent boy who goes to my school for the past few months, knowing full well that the "Interested in: Women" section was utterly fallacious. Today it was updated to: "Interested in: Women, Men". It works for me! I think I'd like to ask him on a date - maybe for coffee or something - but the jury's still out. First of all, I barely know him, but we have many mutual friends, so he's probably at least sane. Second, since he just came out, I don't know how ready he is for a relationship. Third, I don't know if it'd be proper for me to enter into a relationship when I'll be halfway across the country in four months. I think I could definitely have some fun in four months. But would it be worth it? I was planning on spending the summer immersing myself in film, literature, writing, and music, as well as spending exorbitant amounts of time with my besties, who will be gone before I know it. I don't know if I want a boy clouding everything up. Plus, it's very likely that I'll find a boy at USC within the first month I'm there, anyway. I'm open to suggestions.

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jeff's picture

Uhh...

Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans...

Just say hi, see what happens. Keep it casual. You may not dig him, he may not be ready for you, but since you know none of this save for your own speculation, just say hi and see where it goes. If he's just coming out, you might just be the right guy to point him in a direction to find his own happiness more quickly, whether or not that happiness is you...

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"People who are happy are slugs... They do not move the human race forward."
-- Camille Paglia, on Oasis