Taking a Leaf out of Lol-taire's book...

gaynow's picture

So this morning on the subway, this woman got on with her two young sons, and started talking to one of them about a project thing. Now, this boy could NOT have been any older than fifth grade, and probably younger. She was asking him about his model ship or whatever, I guess a diorama thing, and starts asking specific questions: "who rowed the ships?" "What did the merchants trade?" "Did they trade at the ports or go into a marketplace?" And the boy is all shrug-y, and gives a few "I think..." answers that were still pretty decent answer. And the mother... she gets all, "look at me when I'm talking to you! You can't 'think,' you have to be sure. What do you mean you don't know? You don't know a single think they traded?" And aaaah, it made me so angry. The kid deserves a fucking childhood, lady, don't treat him as if a fifth grade diorama is a college admissions essay. So when she got off the train, I was like, "here, you dropped this," and handed her a little note I'd written on some scrap paper saying basically that: "please, ease up. No child should be treated like that; he deserves a childhood." I have no idea if she read it, the train pulled away. I have no idea if it'll make any difference. I have no idea if, if I'd stayed around, she would have thanked me or broken down crying or punched me in the nose. I don't know. I can only hope I didn't worsen anything... Did I do right?

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scandalboy's picture

Hmmm....sounds like she'd

Hmmm....sounds like she'd have been the type of person to punch you in the nose for that note. You can probably look at it 2 ways.... "who are you to comment on her parenting style, get your nose out of other people's business". But I'm more inclined to be like, "Good for you, that woman needs a firm boot up the arse if total strangers on the train are apalled at the way she treats her children."
I think you did right....hopefully this will be a wake up call for her.

Riku's picture

She'd probably have been

She'd probably have been insulted at first, that a total stranger was criticizing her parenting abilities. But maybe it'll make her think about it a little, you never know.

You weren't rude or anything, so I don't think what you did was wrong necessarily... But honestly, I can't say it was right either. Because of the crap my dad has to deal with. He's a fantastic dad but because he's different or has different ideas on how to parent he's always getting the short end of the stick. :/

I'm sorry. I'm no help am I?