Kind of embarrassing... But... Sex change?
I've been wondering... If I could get a change. I mean, I'm gay, so... But then, that would be like losing part of my identity... I don't know...
Please.
Advice.
I'm not even sure if there is an age problem involved, though.... But stil./
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And please, jeff, no
And please, jeff, no annoying-like-heck comments, PLEASE.
You can comment, just PLEASE stop oversimplifying things.
Thank you!
he's not oversimplifying
he's not oversimplifying anything, he's clarifying. it actually helps in the long run because it makes you look at things from a different perspective and re-think how you're going to state something. it's best if there is a devil's advocate for everything, even if it does irritate at first....
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Hmm...
I don't see how giving an answer can be oversimplifying things. If I keep offering simple answers, then I'm typically responding to easy questions (i.e. coming out to gay people). Doesn't mean the path to the answer is easy, but that the answer is easy. 'Come out' is a very simple answer to a huge number of problems on here, but it would be mistaken to my saying 'come out' means you should just come out upon reading it. Merely that it is the answer to your question. You can tell an alcoholic to stop drinking. It is a very obvious answer to a problem, but it isn't easy. But whatever baggage and struggle and setbacks and foibles will need to occur for an alcoholic to become sober doesn't mean that saying their life will improve when they stop drinking isn't also true.
Anyway, if you're gay, you can't get a sex change. Gotta be trans. No way around it*.
There are rules, in addition to a huge expense, that you need to follow that include: age of consent (varies by location), been on hormones for a certain period of time, and getting a psychiatrist to give the OK, which includes living like your intended gender for a specific period of time.
Bigger question is why you would identify as gay if you want a sex change?
*Unless you mean, you want to switch genders and THEN be gay. So, you're a boy now, and want to become female, and then be a lesbian... that's the only way you can be gay and want a sex change that makes sense to me.
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Well it's not quite as
Well it's not quite as simple as just "sex change" (Not overly fond of that term)
I mean, I have a friend who is MTF trans, (though she can't tell her parents because they'll kick her out, but they've gotta know by now. She doesn't exactly pretend to be male, or even try.) And I mean, she IS a girl in a male body right? The surgery is just a way to attempt to correct that. And even though the surgery for FTMs is better than the surgery for MTFs, it's still not perfect. I mean, they can't give you a uterus or anything.
Lucky for you, there's a lot more information on the net for trans people going from male to female than vice versa.
Also, if you want SRS (sex reassignment surgery) you have to go through therapy first. Get letters of recommendation and whatnot. The idea is to make sure that you're actually a girl (mentally) and it's not some other issue that's making you want the change. So you don't regret it later on and all that.
Okay, looking past the technical stuff, I used to identify as lesbian... Okay, not exactly, more like, a female-bodied person who liked girls. But yeah. So now most of my friends are lesbians too. Figures right? I kind of felt like I was letting go of a part of my identity too. But that part was kind of fabricated for me anyways. (I always felt like I'd do better as a gay male than a gay female. Heh.) It was still kind of weird though. Because I had identified with it for so long. But I let go of it pretty easily, since I'm not really a lesbian anyways.
But I mean, if you really are mentally a woman, then it'll become apparent. Even if it is a little weird at first.
Backwards, no?
I thought MTF surgery was better than the F2M surgery, no?
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Didn't I write that? Whoops.
Didn't I write that? Whoops.
Ah. That, I suppose, makes
Ah. That, I suppose, makes sense. And I am definitely not a girl in mind... Meh. Thanks anyways. Y'all are always helpful. And sorry Jeff.
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