If you start madly crushing on girls, then maybe you're bi. Just "liking" them doesn't mean you're bi. Most gay guys like girls. They wouldn't sleep with them (cuz that's icky), but they like them alot. Straight girls and gay men have this thing, you know (an please, PLEASE, never use the term "fag hag". It is offensive, mysogynistic and should have disappeared after the 70s along with bell-bottoms and Orange Leisure Suits)?

In any case, Wants, I'm being lighthearted. I'm not certain that at 13 it's really necessary to decide on a label for yourself. In fact, I'm not sure it's ever necessary, though a dominant preference will likely emerge, and it'll just be easier to go with that one. That's what labels are, or should be: Not cages that confine us, but just terms of convenience that make it easier for the rest of the world to somehow relate to us.

I really think we should replace the whole "labels" thing with something else, like make come up with a test that measures the degree of all our preferences, our place on the gender scale, etc. and then, using some type of algorhythm, combine it all to form a unique color, or fragrance that is part of a broader color or fragrance group. Something that could be shared and identified by many, and yet be unique enough to express each of us individually. Someday someone with the necessary credintials in psychology and chemistry (or physics and aromatherapy) will create this for mankind and win a nobel prize (or a spread in French Vogue). I think I deserve a small chunk of the prize money though, cuz it seems like a damn good idea, and I just thought of it first.

Well, since my mind seems to be off in interesting directions, I think I better go work now.

Ciao!

Love to all,
Pat

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- Pat Nelson Childs
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