Stresssss
Okay, so I've got note cards for my research paper due... Today actually. At like, 1:30, when my English class starts. (Thank gods my class isn't first block.)
I only have half of them done.. That is, 25/50. Well, technically 26 but who's counting? (I am apparently.)
School starts at 7:20 and it's hard to find time to do the note cards during classes. Although possible if necessary.
This is a big grade too. (it counts as much as a test does... We don't have a lot of tests.) So it's kind of important that I get all of these done.
But stress is building and it's getting hard for me to focus again. And it takes me about an hour to do only five.
BLEHHH..
And for the record, no I did not wait until last minute to start.
I missed Monday, due to emotional stress, I might as well have not been there Tuesday, because I was just as emotionally dead as I was Monday. So I didn't get much done that day either. >_o; Leaving me with two days to do all of this.
BLEHHHHH.
So yeah. Wish me luck or something. I guess. Right now I'm taking a break so I don't explode and stuff. Maybe not the best of ideas but whatever. It's better than breaking down later on.
EDIT: My paper is on gender roles right? So I'm reading this Opposing Viewpoints book on gender roles. And I'm doing notes on feminisim, And both sides are so frigging sexist. It's disgusting. >_<;
EDIT AGAIN: I feel really epic right now. I think it's the song they played at the end of the day, it was one of those songs they play when people win something or whatever. But I got the notecards done during lunch... With like, FIVE minutes before class. AWESOME.
You know what else is awesome? I mentioned how I was up at like 12 doing the cards and my teacher is like "Pshh girl." which isn't the awesome part, the awesome part is she stopped and corrected herself, and just normal like not "OMIGOD I'M SORRY I DIDN'T MEAN THAT" but just really naturally. And that just made my day so much. Especially since I never outright told her that I'm transgender, though it's not like I hide it either. (And she might have heard from my librarian, who is amazingly amazing and runs the GSA and stuff.)
But yeah. I'm also feeling pretty good because I only have school Monday then thanksgiving break. 8D I'm off Tuesday because I'm going to FL to visit my mom. Which is okay because I'll get to see my sister.
I'm feeling a lot less pessimistic now. It's pretty cool.
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Feminism is outrageous in
Feminism is outrageous in that it is merely the polar opposite of what it is trying to avoid. The whole index card stuff is total bullshit. I'm in college, and I never use that. It's so impractical.
I know. Most of it is more
I know. Most of it is more towards getting more rights than men, which, you know, gets guys angry because, they don't want lesser rights either. Duh. And they expect guys to just sit back and take it, even though they themselves obviously won't. It's a really hypocritical and redundant. DX;
I actually like the notecards... Just not so many. Like, half of that would be enough. Especially considering this paper is rather short.
Ok, listen carefully: NOT
Ok, listen carefully: NOT ALL FEMINISTS ARE MAN HATING BITCHES!!!!!
The actual idea of feminism is to get rid of gender roles. Not to promote on sex over another. There are people who take it to far, but thats true of just about any issue. Thats an over generalization and is completely unfair. Sorry if it sounds harsh, I just get a we bit touchy on this subject.
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*bites lip* I was trying my
*bites lip* I was trying to make it clear that I didn't mean all feminists. Just the man-hating bitch feminists. Sorry I wasn't clear.
I expected better
Bollocks to that.
I don't understand why people can reap the benefits of feminism and then make ill informed statements about what feminism means.
I have never met a feminist who hates men. It's not an issue of promoting the one sex over the other, it's about ended a system where being a woman is still a stigma, where being a woman is incompatable with being powerful.
Even now most powerful women- if they are taken seriously- have to become 'masculine'. Let my milk turn to bile- 400 years and the Margaret Thatchers of this world are all Lady Macbeths. And look what that gets you; Margaret Thatcher.
But not only political power. Power in day to day interactions is defered to men. To be feminine is to be deferent- still. And it works, eyes down, polite smile when men hassle me walking home late at night. Or if I want something I beg it rather than demand it. I see men demand the same things I beg for.
It's about acknowledging that gender roles are a social construct and that they are constricting to both men and women.
But at the desperate end of feminism are the young woman bringing up children alone and in poverty simply because they are young and women and have children- they're pramface and the fathers are... anonymous, elsewhere- or the woman across the world who are denied education, legal protection, respect, autonomy, sexual freedom and choices. Millions and millions and millions of women live like this. Feminism is what has seperated the lives of western women* from the lives of women in even more patriachal cultures; but it should also be what unites us. The belief that equality is not just for rich white woman in Europe and America, but that all people- all women- deserve to live dignified lives.
Most women are opressed, but men don't benefit from this opression. They're just as trapped in their cultural expectations. It's probably easier to be a man in a society where women suffer extreme forms of opression, but that doesn't mean it's easy. And it's not easy to be a man in this society either. It's not an issue of individual men opressing individual women, it's about an idealogy and a system of thought and behaviour that defines what we think it means to me male and female.
*for want of a better term
I've never personally met a
I've never personally met a feminist that was sexist against men either. But the articles I was reading, all of them. Were very sexist.
One was arguing that the divorce courts are biased against women. And it brings up how a law was changed in the 1970s for equality between genders. She mentions how after it was passed, women won custody less often, and she was using this to imply that it wasn't fair to women. Even though she never gave what the law was changed from.
Turns out, that the law that was changed, was established in the 1800s I believe. And it stated that all young children must live with their mothers, so mothers always got custody of the children. ALWAYS. When it was changed, it was changed so it was possible for the father to be awarded custody. so yeah. relatively less mothers are going to gain custody. Because the mother isn't always the better parent. Although, the courts are still really biased towards women on this issue anyways.
And then there was another woman who was arguing that feminisim has benefited men, (And I'm not saying that it hasn't in some ways.) and she was very blatantly referring to men as some kind of lower life form. And you know, then I can't take her or her arguments seriously because she is making horrible generalizations about men, and half of those generalizations are her arguments. Attitudes like this give people who actually do want equality a bad rep. Because it's hypocritical to say "stop making generalizations about me!" in between horrible generalizations about everyone else.
I do think that women should have, and unfortunately don't have, equal rights. But this stuff I was reading, it wasn't about equal rights. It was some kind of female-elitism. It kind of pisses me off that these people do go around calling themselves feminists, because I know that not all feminists are like that... And that, most aren't. And when they do that, a lot of guys get the idea that they are.
Look, I'm not pissed off at feminists, or even close. Just the people who call themselves feminists and then complain when something is changed in favor of equality because women were the ones benefiting before the change, not from it. THAT pisses me off, because then they're not about equality. They just want to tip the scale in their favor.
So I guess I'll make it more clear next time. Women who want equality = awesome, and more power to them! I have a lot of respect for people willing to work for equality and an unbiased world. Women who want more rights than men = just as bad as the men who want to keep/regain more rights than women.
And I'm not really good at like, communicating my thoughts, so I'm sorry for misunderstandings or anything. I don't want to offend anyone or give anyone the wrong idea about me. Sorry. ._.