GLM SURVEY: How did you feel when you came out?
How did you feel when you came out?
If you haven't already, what are your emotions at being closeted and/or when someone else brings up sexuality, either in a positive or negative light?
Extra Bonus Question: The rainbow flag is supposed to stand for all the different orientations and genders there are. What color are you?
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Coming out is always a huge
Coming out is always a huge relief for me, being closeted sucks big time because I feel silenced and angry whenever anyone is talking about sexuality. Sadly I'm not gay culture savvy enough to answer the bonus question.
"Some people are like slinkies, not really good for anything but they bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs."
Err...
The rainbow flag never stood for various orientations and genders. The original eight-color rainbow flag (usually manufactured as six colors due to dye issues at the time) meant:
hot pink: sexuality
red: life
orange: healing
yellow: sunlight
green: nature
turquoise: magic/art
indigo: serenity/harmony
violet: spirit
More info here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rainbow_flag_(LGBT_movement)
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Hmm.. I never knew
Hmm.. I never knew that.
Wicked how my colours are turquoise and violet.. and I'm a lot more artsy and dreamy than anything else
Thanks for posting that!
And to your question ^
I was relieved amazingly when I told my (gay) aunts in Vermont, and to my parents afterwards (though not as much; I was moreso extremely cautious of them, especially since they kept absolutely quiet about it for weeks afterwards)
Other than them, I haven't come out to the majority of my friends, or anyone else. And even before I was sure who I was and that sort of thing
I was never afraid to get into heated discussions and debates (performances of sorts even!) whenever someone commented negatively about "immoral or not normal" gays
I'm usually very quiet and a bit of an artsy bookworm, but I'll leave anything to make a point and let them see the other side of it.
If it's something positive, sometimes I'll join in, but I regret to say, a lot of the time I don't... I leave it mostly to whoever is speaking about it.
I dunno what to say about being closeted. I'm still be immorally wishy washy about whether I really do fancy girls (which is silly because I do).. so I'm not sure. I don't feel pressured to come out yet. I guess it's the feeling of safety as well.. considering I haven't gotten a proper reading on the kids around me on how they look at anyone who's not straight...
(i can never write short posts >.<)
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"all PEOPLE are bi at heart"
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Oh puke, I knew I hated that
Oh puke, I knew I hated that flag.
The more open I am about my sexuality the happier I've been.
The first time I told someone I thought I was gay I floated about the place for days afterwards. I've never felt lighter.
Then years laters once I told my friends I lost the sickened feeling that I was going to lose them.
Then even more years later (now) that I've started going out to gay clubs and things are very good.
when i came out to my mom, i
when i came out to my mom, i actually threw up afterwords. i was SOOO nervous i could have shit myself! but, it felt really good eventually.
bonus: there should seriously be a black stripe on the rainbow flag, but since there's not, i'm either red or purple/violet.
Bisexual by nature. Absolutely fabulous by choice.
I am still in the process of
I am still in the process of coming-out. The first time I told someone I thought I was gay it was an incredible relief.I smiled to myslef everytime I thought about it for a few days afterwards. Since then I have come-out a bit more to some more friends. I haven't had a bad reaction yet really so generally I usually feel relieved.
Though I am still closeted to a large majority of my friends so I don't think I am going to feel completely relieved about the whole thing until I am finally able to be open about it.
Recently I have started hanging around some other gay people and I always feel so much happier and content with myself when I do this.
I pick red.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent-Eleanor Roosevelt
okay. pick a color, then,
okay. pick a color, then, even if the whole color thing has nothing really to do w/ sexuality. i just need colors.
Yoiu are always coming out
Its a never ending process....I came out to my mom by simply saying....
Mom...Robbs moving in with me...he is my boyfriend and lover....
She said....So tell me something I didn't already know.
It was that simple...but not every one has it that way...some get kicked out of their homes once they come out to the parents.
I have a young man ( 16 ) who is now living with me and my other half ( nonsexual ) because his step dad could not handle him being gay. They had tried to send him to one of those deprograming places but he got away and returned home. So he was tossed out in the cold so to speak. He called me and now he lives with us. He still goes to school and so on but that is another story.
For you...you need to decide when and where to come out to family. Holidays are not the best time. After the holiday maybe...but do it in the summer not in the winter...its cold out there baby...its cold out there.
Come out to a few close friends first before family....see how that goes. What do you say to them? No one can tell you that...we can only tell you what we did and what happend.
good luck
OFB
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Well... I started by comming
Well... I started by comming out to a few friends - I was so scared to lose them, but when I finally came out, I was reliefed, and they weren't the least bit shoked... They sort of all knew,,.. And I was only 15... Half a year later I came out to my family, and they wasn't shoked either.. Well. My dad was okay with it but told me to try both a girl and a guy - as in sleep with. Gotta love my mom's comment though 'Well, you always liked girls better...' xD
I think, if ppl are okay with you coming out, all would feel relieved?
And uh... I'd like to be blue.. :D
You're all just a bunch of wanna-blessed-bees! xD
I was so afraid when I came
I was so afraid when I came out to my parents that I did it over the phone. I was in shock when they said they were totally cool with it. And my boyfriend says im either hot pink or violet. I am SUCH a fem XD
"I feel like Nacy Drew in the mystery of the midlife crisis."
-Roger Bannister
The Stepford Wives
it was...
the first time i came out to a friend i felt really nervous and was shaky actually, and then i told her and she said it was really cool to have a gay friend and felt just so relieved and happy really really happy
then i started to tell friends and felt less nervous each time,
then i told my parents and they said they already knew and i laughed and thought "why did i do it until now?"
and now i like to think i live and out life, but it's a process
as for the flag
i go with purple
Haha. Which time? I mean,
Haha. Which time?
I mean, coming out as a lesbian was kind of weird. Because I even knew then that I wasn't a lesbian. But yeah, I outwardly identified as one.
It was pretty easy to be out to the entire school as gay. But as trans, it's a little harder..
I mean, everyone knows what a lesbian is. And most people in my area are okay with that. A trans boy? Not so much. And it's frustrating because people see me as a girl that wants to be a boy rather than for what I am. And it's frustrating dealing with that. It's frustrating explaining the entire thing over and over. >_o; Especially since some people just. don't. get it.
And then I wonder why everyone thinks I'm straight. It's because I forget to come out as bi/pansexual/whatever. Because I'm so busy trying to get people to understand that I'm a boy.
And if I were a color... I'd probably be cyan. Or turquoise. Depending on my mood I guess. Possibly yellow.