YES I'm complaining about the same friend I complained about during the spring. I'm getting anxiety about this whole ordeal again.
Okay, so I'm not one for tons of physical contact. I get at least twenty hugs from her during the day, not to mention she tends to get in my face, and grab me and drag me off and poke me and stuff. I've been trying to hint at her (first subtly and then not-so-subtly.) but she doesn't take a hint. I don't bother to hug her back anymore but that doesn't help any.
And I'm still annoyed at her because she has no sense of other's privacy and she has this tendency to out me to people. And it's obnoxious.
And she's wicked judgmental of people and labels people and stuff. "OH I don't like people like that." "OH I HATE him now." "OH it was one of those preppy girls."
And plus I see her before and after school. She does all of the same clubs that I do. And sometimes we walk home together too. And even with all of that she expects me to make time for her in my weekends as well. I can't stand to be around her that much. (Especially since she's the kind of person who'd take my shirt off because she wanted to see me in a tank top (I was wearing one under the shirt because it was a white shirt.) and then take PICTURES and refuse to delete them until I start crying. Which I doubt she'd do again. (Considering I'd be likely to RIP HER HEAD OFF.) but it's still not the best of memories.)
As of now she basically acts like she's my girlfriend. Which drives me nuts. Because A) she HAS a girlfriend. and B) I'd never be able to date her, EVER. It'd be a disaster, and that's an understatement. and C) I'm so very sick of everyone thinking that we're an item. Oh and of course there's the fact that if I spend too much time around her I basically have anxiety attacks like this. >_o;;;;;
But it's not like I can stop talking to her because that would devastate her, and I'd feel bad. And my other friends would either hate me just for not talking to her, or hate me once she decides it's okay to tell everyone what a horrible person I am. (She did that when the other FTM she was flirting with decided he didn't want to hang around her anymore. She got all "OH THAT PERSON. I HATE HER." every time he was mentioned, and even when he wasn't.)
But I really am getting to the point where I want to explode. What am I supposed to do?
~Riku
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that's rough. have you tried
that's rough.
have you tried asking her to cut it out when she's being all judgemental-y? when she's trying to flirt with you, you can ask her how her girlfriend is. that should (momentarily) shut her up.
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You could always yell, "LEAVE ME ALONE RIGHT NOW BECAUSE I'M ABOUT TO TEAR FLESH FROM BONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *GRR*"
Or maybe that's just me....it could work...
Just kidding. Tell her that you are developing claustrophobia. Your doc told you. He/she said that your anxiety attacks you've been having are due to a rare case of claustrophobia triggered by stress and that you would appreciate her helping you by giving you a certain amount of personal space (5 feet, seven feet, 100 yards....)
"Oh for fu*ks SAKE! Stop angsting and bloody well ASK ME if we can move to where Charlie's going!...Fu*king wannabe martyr."--Khaos Komix