Remove everything else, and at the center of it all, she has a boyfriend. So, until that's resolved, doesn't quite matter. In high school, sure, boyfriend can be a bit suspect, but at her age? if she's that closeted, I'd take that as a sign to avoid... or else you'll be telling her at 40 why you think her parents should know about you, etc., etc., too much work.

Are you working *with* a professor or is she considered *your* professor? Big difference there.

I always question people who want to date older people. They often say they are mature for their age, but unless you're making up all the difference, usually it means the person you are after is immature for their age, not that that's a bad thing. Just something to consider. Always seems like there's potential for you to get older and keep maturing, to the point where you kind of move past them and their range, etc.

Are you out to her aside from all the non-verbal stuff? If she's a newbie lesbian, she may not know she has the green light, and needs a definite signal.

The older female prof checking you out "below the waist" doesn't sound right to me. I know people disagree on here, but girls are generally less visual, and honestly, unlike guys, what's to check out? Ass, sure. But front? What's to see? Unless you have some major cameltoe, I'm not sure why this would be interesting to look at... (all the girls are about to flame me, I sense)

But if you're in college, and out, and she's not your prof, and there's no school policy forbidding any prof from dating any student (whether or not you're in her class), then I'd say end the high school games and just bring it up and put it out there. Why not?

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thanks for the replies

Firstly, yes, she knows i'm into girls. I'm not in her class, i'm interning on a research project that she is leading, so I spose technically she's my 'boss' rather than professor - though it doesn't exactly feel that way.

My motivations for being with her, well, to be honest and i feel a little bad in saying this: NOT a relationship. I just feel an extreme chemically driven attraction to her, but i dont want a relationship - it's the first time i actually HAVEN't wanted a relationship with a girl/woman. It's basically a physical thing that I am looking for with her.

And NOOOOOO NO CAMEL TOE!!! but i have to admit, looking beyond the waist is weird for me - tho on consulting other lesbians...it's something that happens when thinking about *u know what* for some girls.

But yes, bad idea, she has a boyfriend, though she DID neglect to tell me that for the 7 months i've been interning - i just found out a few days ago.