i can't say i have ever been in ur situation, because i like being a girl on the inside and the outside. I have 36c boobs like u... except mine make me happy. however, if i randomly woke up one day in a guys' body and i had to stay that way, i would be pissed... so i guess that's how you feel. it must be really frustrating that ur outside doesn't match ur inside. but why would u be so threatened by biological guys interacting with ur girlfriend, when that's probably just a waste of ur energy. obviously she knows that there are guys out there who have different physicality than u. if she really wanted to be with a biological guy, she would be with one. she chose to be with u because there is something about you that she likes, so you should be happy about that. a lot of straight people can't even find the right person for them, so you should just try to feel lucky that even though u are going thru some transitions and some frustrating gender situations, u have this one person who likes u how u are and wants to be exclusive with u. good luck with finding a therapist, i'm sure there is someone out there who can help you sort out and deal with ur issues.

I know how you feel. But sometimes you gotta just work your ass off to put it aside and live your life. Life won't wait for you to be male, but you can live your life however the fuck you want. Best of luck, dude.

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Oh wow... I'm sorry, that sounds horrible. My advice, pitiful/unhelpful/uninformed as it may be: get an actual bindy-thing, which might be a bit easier on you than just an ace bandage. Get in touch with some other transmen and see how they do it. There are plenty on Oasis, and even more forums in the world. If you'd like, I could put you in touch with a friend who's been passing for a good part of this year. As far as singing goes; are you in a choir? How cool is your teacher about this sort of thing, and how out are you to your school (/how out do you want to be?) Because if the answer to those questions is "pretty" and "pretty", ask if you can sing tenor. If you've got a reasonably low voice with the right timbre, this shouldn't be an issue. Aforementioned transguy and a bunch of other just low-voiced women (including me) sing tenor, and it's no problem at all as long as there are a few male-bodied singers there to hit the low Ds and Cs. So that's definitely something to consider. What do you think?

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If you eat meat and drink dairy, I'd say that will be a more likely cause of breast cancer than tying down the girls. If the goal is to chop them off at some point anyway, seems like a narrow window for cancer to kick in. Hmm, I just had a disturbing thought which, of course, is completely inappropriate so, of course, I'll share it: if you did get breast cancer, isn't the most radical treatment often double mastectomy? Umm, can anyone say jackpot? "No, doctor, don't remove the lump, just remove them both..."

Look at it as the best of both worlds, you're a heterosexual male who society keeps putting in situations where you get to see naked women. Oh, do I have to shower with the other girls? Oh, OK... stop worrying about your breasts and check out theirs. Once you transition, this slice of nirvana ends, then you have to start earning the right to see naked women. As a gay man, I'm in the same boat and I must say it's delightful. You flirt with a guy while working out at the gym, you end up in the locker room together undressing, knowing all of the big glaring subtext but pretending it's just normal for you to both be getting nearly or fully naked, and changing. I get it for life, but yours has an expiration date.

So, start acting like a straight male pervert and enjoy yourself more.

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