
Yeah. It's been ages since I've written here. I miss it, but I don't have the time or energy. My best friend/unrequited love interest is cutting again and severely depressed and I don't know what to do. And I feel horrible because lately I've been getting even a little angry at her for this, for having these mood swings and being so broody all the time, or being all full of this fake, bubbly happiness that she uses to keep herself from breaking down. I don't like being angry at her for things she can't control (and also, with the whole love interest best-friend-crush thing, there's a huge sense of deja vu, what with my last long-term crush on best friend who betrayed me....... and so, paranoia and doubting current BFULI.....) It's just really not good. I've been a lot more prone to bad moods and little depressive episodes... it's strange, because I don't think I've ever quite been like this before. Do I have an unhealthy relationship with her, like she does with her BFULI? See, that's the funny thing, she's in love with a mutual friend of ours... also very very depressive... and her moods ride on his moods and my moods ride on her moods. And she knows that I like her, and she offered to not talk about her romantic issues, but I said she could cause I would never want to censor her and I want us to have a normal friendship. But, listening to her lament liking her best friend... and sitting there going, "yeah, I know it sucks, cause hel-loo!" Aah. I hate this whole situation. I wish she could be well. I wish I could stop being angry at her for no reason. I wish I could be well. I... I don't know. I don't know how to deal with this, I don't know what I can do for her. Or for me. Help?
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its so funny how life
its so funny how life complicates things when it comes to bestfriends and falling in love, i mean most thing u can do is try to focus on making urself stay happy rather than her, missery loves company and thats exactly what ur giving it when u change ur mood due to someones actions or attitude, as soon as your friend sees shes losing someone that cares so much about her, shell have to stop and rethink her actions of how to cope with her situations better. and about her liking ur other friend im afraid thats otu of ur control as hard as it is to realize, fate has plans and everything works itself out if ur meant to be itll happen.......stay focused on ur self hapiness and good company will come
**Danny**
hey
Im in the same situation, im inlove with one of my girl bestfriend and like you i get angry at her for texting and going out with this guy that i dislike just for her simply liking him. She doesnt want to loose me and i dont want to loose her yet i cant continue like this its bad for me ....so the last thing that ive decided is to not give her much attention and try to talk to new girls. As hard as it is i cant maker her love me. So yea try to see new plp and just have fun make yourself happy =)
You dont like, what you dont understand.
Err...
Eh, she's just your best friend. Why bother keeping track of the people who won't return your love? That time is better spent finding someone who will.
You can be supportive and all that, but at the end of the day you have no control over her moods or if she cuts. I think you know the answer if this is an unhealthy relationship. If you don't, the answer is yes.
Not sure how you'll get over the person who doesn't want you if she's the most important thing in your life. So, what's the plan to get new people in your life, that share your sexuality, and might want to date you, etc.?
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