As of late...

thinks's picture

Well everyone things are going fine. Everything that doesn’t revolve around my accounting class right now anyway which unfortunately is not a lot of things. In fact I should probably be reading my accounting book right now. The guy who teaches my class goes so damn fast over everything that there’s really no point in paying attention because, unless you’re just innately good at it, you won’t get it at all.

Things with my good friend are still good, I just haven’t done anything with him all week which isn’t a big deal. It’s my final week of accounting and he has finals in his school this week as well. I guess the only pertinent question I have, which also doesn’t apply to this situation, is when is it considered too much time since we’ve done anything? Is it just a innate known feeling within one person that only that person can know? I could understand that.

There’s this gay guy I consider myself friends with and I talked to him on the phone last night and he went ON AND ON about this conflict he’s having with this girl whose a friend of his. He must have went on like twenty minutes at least, if not longer. I told him what I would do, which is give the whole thing space and keep away from it for a while, but it doesn’t seem like he’s going to end up doing that. I know he’s taking this way too far, even though the girl is as well. I just hope he comes to realize that if she’s taking it to far that he’s obviously going to have to be the one to stop it all. Just let her go and forget about it all for as long as it needs to be.

That reminds me of one thing I forgot to write about in my last entry. What I forgot is something my therapist told me, that being: you can’t be in love with someone, officially, unless they love you back because love is a RECIPROCATED emotion. Thus love isn’t love without an equal. Does everyone understand that the same way I do? Does anyone have a problem with that? I’m curious. I believe it because I don’t like the idea of being in love with my best friend. ESPECIALLY when he doesn’t love me back, ESPCIALLY when you all know what they say about falling in love with friends, that you’ll never be friends again, especially if you fall out of it.

Anyway I hope to hear something.

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fatefellshort's picture

i dont think love has to be

i dont think love has to be reciprocated.
you can love say, music, and music isn't going to LOVE you.
I believe unrequited love is [perhaps unfortunately] very real.
You can love someone unconditionally without them loving you. It is a very strong emotion and the odds that 2 people both love each other seem smaller than the odds of 1 person loving another.

Idk if anything I just said makes sense but basically I have a problem with what your therapist said ^.^ His/her explanation just sounds like the easy way out.

&& also good luck with your finals. that sounds difficult!

jeff's picture

Hmm...

I don't think unrequited love is love, because typically to get there, you had to build up a pretty big mental projection of the other person. In many cases, it's the version where your friend is gay, into you, and lots of other things that don't exist in this reality. So, you're in love with "him" but only your version of him, which doesn't exist. Given that, can you be in love with someone who doesn't exist? Safe bet you'd agree with me here: the answer is no.

I don't know if they have to love you back for it to be real, but there has to be a shred of something there (dating, them being gay, etc.), something where you are falling for what is real, and what is real then isn't into you for whatever reason. Just like you can be in love with someone after they break up with you, because you are clinging to the past reality.

No reality, no love.

I don't think there is any overlap between how you define the word love in regard to another person, and one's ability to love music, etc. Same verb, but that's about it.

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