Relationship?
Last year I had a sort-of fling with a good girl friend of mine. She knew I was les, but she had always identified as straight, so nothing much happened. It was more of a puppy-love thing than a real relationship. I was head over heels, but I never pushed it because I didn't want to scare her off. I was happier just being close to her. She was 14 to my 17, and I was worried that our friendship wouldn't be able to handle it if I did anything.
My parents never approved of our relationship, because she'd never been all that nice to my sister, and over the summer we lost touch. I learned last week that she'd been sending me letters from camp everyday, and my parents never told me. We started talking again, and she told me she came out as bi in October, and if it had even occurred to her a year ago, that we could/would have officially dated then.
The problem is I’m still kind of in love with her. And I want to tell her, but she is currently dating a guy who just happens to be a friend of mine. She's said that she misses what we had, and that she and the guy aren't anything like what she and I used to be. She's also admitted to not wanting to be in the relationship anymore.
I don't believe I have the right to ask her to break up with her boyfriend, and since I will be leaving for college in another 4 months and will be 8 hours away, I’m not sure if it would be healthy to start anything now.
The other issue is that she's not out to anyone but her closest friends. So our relationship would have to be a secret. Does anyone else think I'm crazy for wanting to start this now? Should I just let it go?
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Well...
Her not being single sort of thwarts any plans you might have, no?
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Maybe...
But she's said that she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore. I personally think that it's a charade to keep her identity hidden
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p.s. your icon always makes
p.s.
your icon always makes me think there's a bug on the screen...no matter how many times i've seen it before
Eh...
You're leaving town, she's leading you on. If she goes to be with you, she has to dump your friend. Sounds like a lot of factors.
Sounds like a good time for a fresh break in college. Unless, you know, you're a bit bi and you think your friend is hot, too. Then you could have a few interesting months.
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oh my gaah
i love your advice. "Unless, you know, you're a bit bi and you think your friend is hot, too. Then you could have a few interesting months."
Best advice ever given. lol
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heh...
It's stuff like that that makes me think I could never turn Oasis into a non-profit. No advisory board would want me talking like that to kids. :-)
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don't do it! i was stuck in
don't do it! i was stuck in a very similiar situation and it ended badly. all i can say is fall in love with someone that deserves your love not someone that will play with it
Like you can choose who you love.
It sounds like you're still pining. Don't give yourself more fodder. Find a different girl, rebound off of her, and get all ready for college.
P.S. Use sound judgment with who you date in college.
No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless; there is too much work to do.--Dorothy Day