Settling Down

thinks's picture

I'm kinda nervous... I was talking with this person I know and he told me, and I beleive him, that my relationship with my best friend, who I've recently told I'm gay, is ONLY going to change, if I make it change.

My friend made out like nothing has changed when I told him, so that's why I strongly believe what I've been told about the potential for change in our friendship.

I just feel like there's a problem. I'm not going to try and change anything, not that I'M aware of anyway. It's just that I guess I feel like there should be some degree of change. Am I wrong?

I think I am wrong, but I just wonder. I just think that if things have carried on with my friend as long as they have with only an implied knowledge that things can certainly carry on the same way WITH the knowledge. I think that's the best bet, to settle things down, but any insight would be appreciated.

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jeff's picture

Hmm...

You picked a good username, because there is way too much thinking going on here.

I can't quite tell what you're talking about, though.

You came out to your friend, and he was OK with it. Your relationship wasn't romantic, and you don't have a crush on him (that you said anyway), so he's OK with having a gay friend. If anything, sounds like he already figured it out before you told him.

What is supposed to change? Are you creating and addressing problems that don't exist?

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thoughtgoddess's picture

I don't think the

I don't think the relationship should change, but I've found that it's nice when one's friends do acknowledge the fact that you're gay after you've come out to them, not just pretend like it didn't happen or avoid the subject. The way you interact, etc. shouldn't change, but, and I don't know if this is even close to what you would want, I've always found it nice when a friend can just casually mention it, or point out someone of the same gender and such things without it being awkward.

thinks's picture

I know what you mean.

I know what you mean.