Why label shop when you can ignore them all?

Here's the deal, you aren't straight. Straight people don't sit around wondering if they're straight, gay, bi, or anything. So, once you dump that, it's sort of all available to you.

I've said this before, but it bears repeating and that is that I have no clue what the sexuality was of the last five guys I dated. Let's not even go into the sexuality of the ones I wasn't dating but was more intimate with for a brief period of time, heh. In the adult world, it really doesn't matter. Closeted matters. I wouldn't *date* closeted guys, just cuz that would eventually be a deal-breaker.

But if you date girls you're into and refuse to say lesbian, then date a guy, you haven't broken a label. You have to choose one to break the rules of it. Your parents already gave you the only label you need. It's written on your birth certificate above "First Name." You can define that however you want, as you go. If you're with a girl and in love with her, and she keeps pressing you to define things beyond that, then she's just annoying and will push you away with her insecurity at some point anyway.

There's an expression vegans use, which if you end up lesbian there's a 27 percent chance you'll become veg*n: it's better to do something because you can't do everything. So, right now, you're just asexual. Boring. You can only diddle yourself for so long and call it a life.

So, go out, test the waters. Resist all labels and let your life define who you are, rather than sitting back to find a label to define your life in advance.

I mean, let's be real. If you're in high school/college, the people you date are unlikely to be the people you're celebrating 25th anniversaries with 25 years from now. This is the time to find out who you are, what you like, what you don't, what you like to do in bed, etc. By the time you sort yourself out, you'll still be way behind the curve on all this other stuff...

"What good is sitting alone in your room? Come here the music play. Life is a cabaret, old chum, Come to the cabaret!"

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"Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there." -- Josh Billings.

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