You've created an empire. So, aside from doing your own music, do you want to do Broadway again, is that always on the radar?
Broadway doesn't want me. I'm at a weird age. I'm like 28. I'm young for leading man age, but I'm Latin. I'm clearly visually Latin, so I can't pass for white unless they go for color-blind casting and then it's like who cares what I am? But those roles are few and far between. Usually it's white or black, always.
So, in New York, it's like I had 17 auditions, but I've had over 30 auditions in the past six months in L.A. So, it's just going where the work is. I shot a pilot for MTV with Maya and Drew Lachey, but of course it's the one pilot where they're like 'It's not going to series, it's too much like another show we have.' But I've had great successes living in Los Angeles. I've gone in for a lot of things I normally wouldn't get the opportunity to in New York.
So, do I want to go to Broadway? I got a little Broadway hungry when I was hanging out with the RENT cast last night and I was like, Aww... I want to perform on a stage. But then I thought about it, and I don't really want to work that hard, either. I don't want to be sweating in a costume and living in a shack. I like my big apartment in L.A. You get so much more for your money there.
But I do like the sense of community you feel in New York, especially the Broadway community. There's so much love and people really want to be there. They want to be on that stage. If I went back, I'd have to have a role that was so perfect. There are some that I love. I would love to play Rod in Avenue Q. I think that's a great role. There's some you don't have to be white for. It's hard. The responses we get are 'He's a little too ethnic' or 'He's not ethnic enough.' (laughs)
Do you have any advice for people on the site, about coming out, being out, theatre...
I had a shitty coming out experience. I got kicked out. So my thing is, for your own safety, you have to really weigh your options. People are always like 'Be true to yourself,' and I would say be as true as you can in that moment in that situation. If you know that you can keep the peace and you can keep your mouth shut for a year because you know you don't have that many options, and it's not going to kill you, do it.
I think it's better to be honest, but my honesty wasn't going to lead me anywhere in high school. It's not like I was going to date. I had no one to possibly date, so it didn't matter. I didn't need to say anything. So, the summer that I graduated high school, I was supposed to start college in the fall but then I started going in for Rent.
Then I started college, and I had to leave because I got Rent. Thirty days in, my mom picks me up and she thinks I got this Broadway show, and I didn't tell her the name or the content, and she doesn't follow any of that stuff. So, I told her, and she's was like, 'You're going to play a gay person?" And it was a big to-do, a big fight. She basically kicked me out. And I had a week and a half where I was staying on friend's couches until I started the show and got a paycheck.
So, it was a weird experience. So, I don't know what to say. I'm not going to be one of those people who just says, 'Come out and sleep on the streets, because you need to be honest.' Why? I guess, if you need to, you need to. But, for me, I didn't really have to. There was nothing pressing. I wasn't living in a city where I had access to other gay youth, so it just wasn't going to happen.
But gay youth who have come out, and so many parents now are just learning, and I don't know if it's from programs like ours where the Middle American, Republican audience that we target, whether they're softening up to the concept, or we're just changing as a nation, or what the story is, but I have a lot of gay youth stories where they're just like, 'Yeah, my mom was just like, 'You're gay, aren't you?' and that's OK,' and I'm just like 'What?!' This is awesome but crazy.
Well, I've been doing this website since 1995, so it's been a huge thing, just watching the age grinding lower and lower as far as when they're coming out.
And do you see a lot where they come out and their parents are all 'That's Awesome.'
I think there are a lot of supportive parents, and it seems like a lot of the people who build up the biggest scenarios of getting kicked out of the house and all, it's most often not a big deal. But, I mean, I came out when I was 23, so running a site where years later I have 14 year olds that can't find boyfriends, it's a bit of a time warp. I mean, I was I'd been out and unable to find a boyfriend at 14.
Me too. Me too. Please, that was never going to happen. Ever.
Yeah, I was on the generation where you came out in college, maybe.
With me, I had one long-term boyfriend and it was ages ago. I can't imagine it. Maybe because I was an only child or what, but these kids are like, yeah, I've been dating this guy for two years, and I'm like, 'You're like twelve?!'