The dreaded first post...

8 January, 2008 - 10:03pm — nayanroo

Well, this is my first post here, I just joined a few minutes ago, and I figure I'll tell everyone a little bit about myself.

I'm Lana, and I'm currently working toward a Bachelor of Science degree in Microbiology at Humboldt State University. I'm bisexual but I prefer girls; I'm with a lovely esthetician named Jamie, and we've been together almost six months. Neither of us are out of the closet (it's been complicated going around behind our parents' backs).

I joined here to raise my confidence before coming out and plan for it. I have no reading at all how my parents would react...and I know I tend to work things up in my head and think too much, so hopefully talking to people who are in the same situation as I am will help me. I'm tired of lying to my parents, but at the same time I don't want to lose them.

I look forward to meeting all of you!

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8 January, 2008 - 10:07pm — underage_thinker

Yay! Welcome to Oasis It's

Yay! Welcome to Oasis
It's awesome here, so you can write pretty much anyhting you want and everyone will be nice about it.
And good luck with your parents. I know it's hard. Beyond belief. But it's great once it's over with. The anticipation of it is causes a lot more stress than it creates. I'm sure your parents will be fine about it; most are generally accepting.
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8 January, 2008 - 10:32pm — Lol-taire

Hi, welcome and I hope we'll

Hi, welcome and I hope we'll be helpful.
The one thing I'd say is that the fact you have no idea how your parents would react is probably a good sign, in that if they were going to have a very bad reaction they'd have already expressed strong opinions on the old homosexuality/ bisexuality before.

8 January, 2008 - 10:45pm — patnelsonchilds (not verified)

Welcome to Oasis. You never

Welcome to Oasis.

You never can really tell how parents will react. They can be the most tolerant people on Earth, as long as it isn't their own child who they're talking about. But the exact opposite can be true as well. I've befriended people who are very gay intolerant and while I usually don't get them sporting pride flags on their bumpers, often just meeting a real gay person canchange their attitude a lot. The thing is, they are your parents, and they love you. If you tend to clash with them about other things, you will probably clash with them about this. If you tend to get along, it will probably not be such a horrible experience. Just keep in mind that, while you've had plenty pf time to come to terms with this, your parents will be hearing it for the first time. Give them time to come to adjust. If they say silly things about therapy or finding a cure or where they failed as parents, don't get angry; just forgive them. If they are the kind of folks who like to educate themselves about things, I recommend sending them to the Pflag website. There's a lot of good stuff for parents there.

Good luck. We'll be here for you however it turns out.

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9 January, 2008 - 7:13am — wild-blue-yonder

Hi there!

Hi there! Welcome to Oasis! Glad you joined!

I agree with the above posts - you'd probably know already if your parents were horribly homophobic or something, so that's a good sign. How about testing the waters with a few comments/questions about LGBTQs in general beforehand? That way you might get a better idea about how they're going to react, and it could be less stressful when you actually do come out.

Good luck, whatever you do!

9 January, 2008 - 8:51am — electricity

hello! This site it a pretty

hello! This site it a pretty good place to get comfortable and just come out. It really helped me out. If I say the rest of what I wish, I'll just be repeating the others =] welcome.

PS. yeah girls are way better