I need help
I am a newly discovered bisexual, and I need to get out to someone. I've told one person and will tell another, but I want to be sure I won't lose any friends. I mean there's so much homophobia around I'm afraid to even look at any guys! can anyone help me?
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Bring up the subject with
Bring up the subject with other friends, not as it applies to you. If they seem okay with it, it's probably safe to come out.
"She's a mystery
She's too much for me
But I keep coming back for more
She's just the girl I'm looking for"
-The Click Five "Just the Girl"
Well...
The good news is you can't lose any actual friends.
If their friendship is conditional upon your heterosexuality, then that person isn't someone you want around for the long haul, so the sooner you get the dead weight out of your life, the better.
True friends will be there through anything you throw at them (though allow them some time to adjust, of course. You got to take time getting comfortable with it and they deserve the same process).
I always think of the classic quote: I'd rather be hated for what i am than loved for what I'm not.
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well, I just emailed it to
well, I just emailed it to someone, and I'm preparing someone else, so I just hope my or their parents don't find out...
thanks everyone! My burden
thanks everyone!
My burden is partly lifted, I have taken a big step towards getting "out"
come out in person
try to come out in person whenever possible cuz then you can see their reaction and answer any questions they might have and etc. When I started coming out I thought that people who weren't 100% ok with homosexuality were that way just because they didn't know enough people who were gay to know that we're not really big scary monsters out to eat american families. So I thought that when I told them I was gay, they'd accept me because they know that I'm not trying to eat american families which would make them change their oppinions about homosexuality. I hate to be pessimistic, but that's not how it's worked out; so make sure that people are ok with homosexuality before you come out. Good Luck, coming out is a lot of fun when you get a good reaction, it's one of the most gratifiying things I've ever done.
"gay: cheerful and lighthearted; merry." - The American Heritage Dictionary.