Shit. Help?
So. I've got a friend who's a bit screwed up. She seems really innocent, but... her parents are horrible and they really fucked her up. She had a period of anorexia, she routinely climbs on rooftops, she cut, and she tried a cigarette... but said she wouldn't do it again. Well, surprise surprise; she did it again. SHIT. So, um........ any advice?
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well WOW that reminds me of
well WOW that reminds me of who i used to be..
tell her..
"life can suck some times, alot.. but if you let the negitive things get to u, you will be stuck with so much negitivity it will kill u.. tell her not to let that happen to her.. tell her to stop and get help, it will be a hard process but if she doesnt stop soon, life will just get harder.." trust me.. i had so much shit in life.. it was so hard to recover but i did.. some urges to do things i used to still come on to me.. but.. i try my hardest to let them past, if they dont i find things to do like hanging out with friends who do positive things or watch a movie.. actions are normally the best, bcz romance or comedy normally ruin your mood.. just tell her to talk to me if she really needs to.. if she wants to i will be happy to give her my email
love her purely or don't love her at all
I'd love to give advice, but
I'd love to give advice, but whatever I say will have been said a thousand times before by others who know better than I. It'll just come out patronizing.
That being said...
I had a friend who was on that road, but I don't know if she got pulled back. (She moved to Canada.) It was scary, and I couldn't help her. I've been in your position, a bit.
being very patronising, but...
It sounds like more or less regular teenage nonsense. Of course regular teenage nonsense is incredably horrible to go through at the time and can lead to more extreme things/ mask deeper issues. But normally it doesn't.
This doesn't in any way diminish your worry for your friend, but none of it's any worse than anything almost everyone I know has done at some point, myself included- mostly for attention (which actually is a totally legitimate reason to do something sometimes). And most of us aren't fuck-ups.
Keep an eye out on her eating and self harm and if it gets bad report it to people at school or make sure she gets help. But almost certainly she'll grow out of it.
*hugs you and your friend*
I have absolutely no idea what to say. I guess you can let her know that you're there for her. Maybe say something like, "Look, I know you're going through a lot of crap right now, and if you need any help, or if you just need someone to talk to, I'm available. You're a really good person, and I don't want you to feel like you're alone." It's always nice to know someone cares, and slipping little compliments into statements is always a good thing. It helps build self esteem, which your friend could probably use right now.
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