Damn Straight Crushes....Always so Confusing!
So, this boy I have a crush on is majorly confusing me. I have no clue if he likes me as a friend or more. And, well, he does have a girlfriend, but that's several states away. Anyway, I'm not really sure how to take all of the stuff that's happened. Basically, there's the whole thing about him laying on top of me http://www.oasisjournals.com/2007/09/some-wrestling-with-my-crush
And there's that one day when he said I could sleep in his room (his roommate was gone so I slept in the spare bed. Nothing happened really.)
But lately (ever since the day he's layed on top of me) he hasn't been that chummy with me. Like, yesterday we didn't really talk much. And today, well, I was laying on the couch in the lounge and he sat on the table next to me and he found a piece of paper that he poked my head with and then we were throwing it back and forth at eachother. I was working on homework in the study room and he stopped by really quick to comment on my work (math on the white board) and then he just left.
But then there's the fact that he has a girlfriend. Sometimes I feel as if I annoy him. I think he may have a crush on my friend. He was following her around today. The other day when me and him were playing around, he was playing around the same way with her. The only difference is he didn't lay on her.
I dunno, things are weird. What do you guys think? Also, even though he knows I'm gay, isn't it kinda weird that he would lay on top of me?
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hmm..
well..
i kno how it is when u dont know how someone feels about u and you just want it to be uncomplicated.. but hun well its not..
relationships are hard and expecally when u are getting mixed signals, i think the best thing to do is talk to him.. i mean that always helps me.. also with the friend thing that would suck if he liked her instead of you.. but hey my advice is to look on the positive note.. i really hope this works out for you.. keep my informed..
love her purely or don't love her at all
You might want to try asking
You might want to try asking subtly if you're afraid of risking your friendship. It sounds like you two are good friends (and he's clearly comfortable with your homosexauality if he lay on you like that), so you're probably pretty safe joking around about it. I'm not very good at coming up with specific stuff like this, but I'm sure there are ways to make a joke about him choosing you over his girlfriend or something and you could watch his reaction.
Or you could just ask him about his girlfriend, and see how comfortable he seems with the subject. Does he want to discuss her with you? Does he have a lot to say to her? It's probably better to just confront him about your mixed signals outright, but there are roundabout ways to bring up the topic if you want to.
Well, this does sound like a
Well, this does sound like a sticky one! Situation, that is. Ok there's your inspiration - get a sticky food item and share it with him, then assist in clean-up maneuvers so you get real touchy feely and might literally FEEL his reaction too!
It sounds like he was interested in you, I think a deciding factor here though is how LONG have you two known each other? I think crushes can be developed over a long time or suddenly appear... but if you've known each other 3+ years and he's acting this way, I'd wager he considers you a lot more of a FRIEND than potential GF/lover/kink-friend.
I think it IS weird that he'd lay on top of you, but how long was that after he found out you were gay? He might've been literally feeling the waters of your friendship/his own sexuality or seeing what a 'lesbian''s reaction would've been (sorry if you're not an all-out lesbian, I don't know exactly what you told him about your sexuality though!).
The fact that he came into the math room says something though! If he left after just a bit of commenting it makes me think that he is trying to bait you into attraction but him having a girlfriend is uuuuuuh.
It really is a lot of mixed signals, for now I'd advise you to try to tone down your crushing by thinking of disgusting things about him! If he turns out to be madly in love with you, then you'll feel even more sough-after later; if not, then you may not waste as much thought-time, and the sketchiness of it all now makes me think he's a bit of a zany boy.
The 'problem' is the girlfriend, how close are they? Are they make-out fiends in public? How long have they been together? If YOU see him as being potentially interested in your FRIEND and also thought he was into YOU then a strong relationship with his GF sounds unlikely!
Anyway, have a thrilling evening :)
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