So...is it really possible?
In light of my latest column...and have to remember past dramas...I was wondering if it is possible to be 'just friends' with an ex...especially if it was a serious relationship. What was everyone else's experience?
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I'd say yes. My girlfriend
I'd say yes. My girlfriend of sixth months ( a long time for 8th graders) called me and dumped me. It took a while to forgive her, but we're friends again. Just don't be bitter.
Oh, and don't try to seduce them back. I tried that once and made a complete ass of myself.
"She's a mystery
She's too much for me
But I keep coming back for more
She's just the girl I'm looking for"
-The Click Five "Just the Girl"
I'm still friends with 3 out
I'm still friends with 3 out of 4 exes. I like to say I'm friends with all 4 of them, but I haven't spoken to the fourth since we broke up in February because I haven't seen her and she's perpetually grounded and I don't really care to go out of my way to make connections.
But I digress. Being friends with an ex is really worth it... there's no grudge-holding to deal with. It's easier in the long run.
Whatever I did, I didn't do it.
Hmm...
I definitely know of enough cases. I think if there was cheating, it makes it harder to reconcile, but otherwise I'd almost say being friends with your ex is the norm in the gay world.
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Hm... The only experience I
Hm... The only experience I have with relationships are straight ones, but I had one that lasted almost 1 1/2 yeas, and we kind of drifted, now if we see each other, it's not really uncomfortable. It's more of a mutual respect. Not friendship, but nothing fierce.
"A friend is someone who bails you out of jail; a best friend is someone who stands in the cell next to you and says 'that was freakin' awesome'"
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well...
i hope its possible since i just broke up with me girlfriend of a year and would really like to be friends with her once we are both over the relationship. i think it is possible although how you broke up often affects whether you can be friends or not. i think friendships also become difficult if one of you finds a new partner sooner than the other and jealousy can occur.
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i dont know
well i dated this girl before i realized i was gay and now she wants to be friends and its sortove odd for me and i dont think she realizes that i'm gay wich is REALLY going to be a fun conversation
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Well, I'm really glad that I
Well, I'm really glad that I don't feel alone on that question.
Now if I have re-read this yesterday before the bitterness kicked in. ;)
I think for me...it's just going to take time. Still too many issues and ghosts there.
Torre
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i think so! one of my ex's
i think so! one of my ex's that i was very serious with is now my absolute best friend. it took a while to get there but it is very possible. i am friends with both my ex's, close friends too! once you are in good terms and over each other it is possible
yeah! one of my exs is one
yeah!
one of my exs is one of my best friends, along with her current gf/the girl she dated immediately after me. its actually really nice. (although there are, as you would expect, some awkward moments where its like "oh, this isnt appropriate to be talking about in front of your girlfriend, is it?" )
It's..
It's more than possible. I've done it twice, out of three relationships. That gives me something like 66% success rate of post dating friendship... Right?
Anyway, it's certainly possible.
Eh...
I haven't had a same sex relationship yet so I don't know about that, but as far as my experience with straight relationships I feel that it's easy if theres no left over attraction between the people involved AKA the break up was a mutual thing. However if the break up was completely one sided then it's alot harder to remain friends with the person because one of you will always want more.
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sadly i cant really say, ive
sadly i cant really say, ive dated like 3 people max, and the 1st one we both moved, and even tho im friends with other two we didnt really date i mean we hardly hugged so i dont really count it so honestly i cant say from expierence. but i would say its worth it, like everyone sayd then your not still mad at the person and you get to keep a friend maybe even you guys will hook up again who knows.
I think so
Meh. I'm maybe not the best person to say, as I've had a grand total of one semi-serious relationship... but I think it's possible. Things might never be 100% normal, but it could still be a friendship worth having. My ex (boyfriend) and I are still pretty close (not quite as close as we were when we were going out, though) and we can talk about just about anything (crushes on other people, girl problems, etc...) without it being too awkward. I still consider him one of my closest friends. I'm definitely glad we didn't pull the "oh-dear-we-broke-up-now-we-have-to-avoid-each-other" thing.