
I've never came out to my dad. And he's always talking about me getting married, how old I think I'll be when I do, what kinda of wedding I want, kids, etc. He's always asked those kinda of questions. And today, me, my brother, and my dad were working together painting some cabinets. My brother (Brother #3) was in a bad mood and stuff, and so he was being extra cranky towards me cuz I was being the good kid.
So we were painting and my dad brings up the whole getting married thing like usual. Here's kinda the situation:
Dad: "So, when is my little girl getting married?"
Me: *pretends I didn't hear*
Dad: "So, do you want a big wedding?"
Brother: "Yeah, but only if she's getting married to Lindsey (just a random name he chose to signify it's a girl I want to marry)
Dad: "What? Stop being stupid, you know it's only supposed to be a man and woman like god intended. There's no such thing as woman, woman & man, man.
Everyone: *quiet*
Brother: "Haha, Dad, just kidding"
Me: "Um, Dad, so am I painting this right?.." *and continues to change the subject*
Oh gosh, I felt like stabbing my brother with the screwdriver. He's such an ass. That was such a scary and heartbreaking moment. Everytime my dad mentions weddings I get nervous and I just nod to whatever he says. Sometimes I try to make him think I don't want to get married and focus on a career, but everytime he brings up my husband, blah, blah, blah. Grrrr. I hate it.
And coming out of the closet to him? Forget it. He's the one that will be putting me through college. Oiy. But, I'm gonna have to break my dad's heart eventually if I want to have a family :(
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aw i'm sorry. it mus be
aw i'm sorry. it mus be really hard. but it'll eventually get better. no worries.
"i am who i am, so don't judge me for being myself"
He actually said, "you know
He actually said, "you know it's only supposed to be a man and woman like god intended."? It sounds like he regurgitated that from a pamphlet on anti-gay literature.
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If that was my brother, I
If that was my brother, I would've slapped the back of his head for that.
When you finally do have to break the news to your dad, if he can't get past his "like God intended" belief and think about your happiness, then he certainly doesn't deserve to have a daughter like you.
Hmm...
Often times, the one person in the family who doesn't know (usually the father) sometimes resents that everyone has known for months/years and kept it from them, as though they wouldn't have been able to handle it, etc.
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Even thought I am sure all
Even thought I am sure all the healthy advise is appreciated, if I were you, I would have pushed my brother down a flight of stairs by now. Or cut his head, or something evil. Then, again, siblings are the biggest pain ever invented.
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Well
At least your brother knows my whole family thinks the way your dad does. And my family is putting me though college too so can't do anything about the whole gay thing untill I'm out of college. But I'll tell them soon after.
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